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Remembrance Day: Holding Space for Sacrifice and Complexity

Today, we pause to remember those who served and continue to serve—those who sacrificed their lives, their health, their peace of mind, and their sense of safety so that we might live in freedom.

As a counsellor, I'm deeply aware that remembrance isn't just about honouring the past. It's about recognizing the ongoing impact of war and military service on individuals, families, and communities. Many veterans and their loved ones carry invisible wounds—PTSD, moral injury, grief, and trauma that ripple across generations.

Today, I'm thinking about:

- The veterans in our communities who struggle silently with memories that won't fade
- The families who lost someone and have lived with that absence for decades
- The service members who came home but never quite made it all the way back
- The courage it takes to seek help when the weight becomes too heavy
- The Indigenous veterans who served a country that denied them full rights and recognition
- The complexity of honouring sacrifice while also acknowledging the human cost of war

If you're a veteran or family member struggling today, please know: your feelings are valid. Whether today brings pride, grief, anger, numbness, or a confusing mix of all of it—there's room for all of those emotions.

Remembrance isn't just about looking backward—it's also a call forward:

To support mental health resources for veterans. To create communities where asking for help is seen as strength. To ensure that "never forget" also means never forgetting our responsibility to those who served.

Lest we forget.

If you or someone you know is struggling, Veterans Affairs Canada offers mental health support: 1-800-268-7708 (24/7)