Unofficial: H E a R T

Just found out I’m pregnant for my best friend of 25 years

I (38f) just found out that I am pregnant for my best friend (40m) of 25 years. We dated for a while in and after high school, but eventually found our own partners and just remained friends. Unfortunately his wife passed away a few years ago and my fiance passed away a year ago, so with that in common, we very easily found our way back to each other.

I tried for years to have a child but after 35, I just thought it wasn’t in the cards for me and didn’t think anything else about it. I recently quit smoking and lost some weight, and I think that must have been the magic combination….

I don’t know how to tell him. I’m excited.. kind of…the unknowns are the reasons for the hesitancy. We live a few hours away from each other and we both have really good jobs, that neither of us want to leave. I really don’t know if he never wanted to have children or if it was just hard for him and his wife to conceive. I just don’t know how this is going to work.

I’m not saying anything to anyone until I go see an OB this week to make sure the 2 tests are accurate. I also had an ectopic pregnancy in my early 20’s so I also want to make sure everything is ok in that respect.

This could ruin a 25 yr friendship or it could go really well…

Any suggestions on how to tell him would be greatly appreciated. (From guys and gals)