Working Through

When it comes to couples' honesty, our emphasis shifts to things like looking through a partner's phone, querying where they were, and questioning them about what they're not telling.
While it is important to believe we can trust the person we are with, another strategy to developing genuine trust is to work on improving our communication and listening skills. Rather of simply focusing on what isn't being expressed, we may build on what is.

We tend to make mistakes when we are provoked or when our partner acts in an off, unpleasant, dismissive, or annoying way. We don’t always react in the way we would like.
While there are methods that help us cool down and learned reactions that may help us better handle hot situations, we need also remember that there is a whole world going on inside our partner that is completely different from us.
Our early attachment habits will influence how we interact and how we expect a partner to behave or our relationship to work. Just as we may project all types of thoughts and emotions from our past onto our partner, our partner is most likely projecting pieces of their own past onto us.
It is important to stop projecting onto our partner if we want to have a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Knowing that whatever is going on within our partner isn't necessarily about us makes us less reactive and more curious about ourselves. It's a real and non-dramatic method to approach each other more gently and avoid falling into damaging cycles in which both people end up acting in ways we later regret.