Before I Do

Pregnancy is not a marriage proposal.

In this 2026, you are still using pregnancy to trap a man?

My sister, that game expired since Nokia torchlight era.

Unless you are ready to be called single mother.

Let’s be guided,

You can’t force a man to marry you because you’re pregnant.

Everybody has a choice.

No man can be dragged to altar by belly evidence.

Men, be wise.

Women, be wiser.

Because at the end of the day, pikin no be marriage certificate.

Our Marriages must work.

As a marriage counselor, I have seen a lot and also heard a lot. I don't easily take sides when a couple has issues. No matter how much a woman cries and complains, I remain alert while consoling her because most men bear a lot in silence. In fact, their nickname should be endurance.

Most women can easily tell people, "my husband is having an affair, he's been cheating on me for many years" but most men whose wives are unfaithful would hardly tell anyone because they feel embarrassed so they tuck their pain in and switch off. They quietly withdraw from their wives while still in the marriage. They change.

Interestingly, a majority of such unfaithful wives complain and tell everyone who cares to listen, that their husbands changed all of a sudden and for no reason as though they have no clue, as though they're innocent meanwhile they're the actual culprits. You'd notice a lot of them in the comments section accusing their husbands but you'd hardly see men saying nasty things about their wives in the comments section.

Men need to be listened to, men need to be understood.

You know you are married and even your mother knows that my daughter is married but there is this scandal that happens in between the daughter and her mother,you lie to your husband that am going to see my mother,but in your mind you are not going to see your mother but you are going to see another man behind your husband's back,and even you have planned it with your mother, after your enjoyment with that man he do shopping for your mother and even he gives you some good cash for your mother and yours too,you feel good,also your mother feels good for that man and to extend you start ignoring your husband and even your mother too,,so please 🙏 some mother's out there stop misleading your daughter's because that man has a good pocket than the other but tell your daughter to build her home but not to destroy it .

WIVES....

When your husband says, “Do whatever you like." Please, my sister, don’t go ahead and do whatever you like.

That’s not permission, it’s a coded warning from the minister of defense himself in your house!

Because the same man that said “Do whatever you like” will later say, "You actually did it"?

Men communicate in parables.

Do whatever you like, means don’t even try it.

“I’m not angry” means he’s boiling like Indomie water.

“We’ll talk later” means you’re already in trouble.

So, my advice, Darlings

when you hear that sentence,

Just smile, apologize for what you haven’t done, and go and cook his favorite food before you explain yourself further ❤

HOW TO MAKE YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW TO-BE LOVE AND ACCEPT YOU

Be sure you are right for her son, if you are not, she will know and will not accept you.

Mothers have very strong intuition about their children especially godly mothers. She knows a million miles off if your motive for her son is to make his life better or worse.

Contribute meaningfully into her son's life!

Ladies who only agree to marry a man because he has a car and lives in a choice apartment without contributing anything whatsoever to his life except reap where they have not sown should not expect the mother-in-law to-be give them the green card!

Your role in man's life is to help him achieve greatness not suck all the elements of greatness out of him.

If his life has changed noticeably since he met you, she will know and love you for it.

Show her utmost respect.

It's not easy birthing, training and raising the adult you fell in love with and wants to marry. She deserves kudos for a good job well done. Respect, honour and appreciate her for being a great mother.

Call her often.

When you visit (not on the first visit), buy her gifts.

Assist with chores if you meet her doing something when you visit.

Genuinely love her from the depth of your heart.

Genuinely love her son.

Respect her son.

Speak well of her son.

Tell her the qualities you love about her son and appreciate her for training him well.

Ask God to give you favor in her sight.

Ask God to give you wisdom on how best to relate with her.

Overlook her weaknesses. Your mum has some too.

Tell your fiance things you like about his mother.

Learn her language if you are from a different tribe and endeavor to speak the little you know whenever you are with her.

Always dress decently.

Avoid local or international gossip.

Always speak with wisdom.

Do not answer questions you are not asked.

Be patient with her if she is slow at accepting you. She is studying you. She needs to be sure you are really the right person for her son.

Do

Good men are not easy to come by these days.
When a man puts all his best and effort to make the relationship/marriage work, don't think he's desperate.
He wants to be the best man for you. Don't think the way he is taking care of you is the same way he's doing with other girls, no. He's doing that for you because you're the one that he truly loves and care about.❤️

A man does not make noise when he's leaving you. He made noise before when he wanted to stay, but you did not listen.

Listen, sister, once a man stops showing signs of jealousy, his spirit has left you.

Don't take a good man for granted.
His simplicity is not a sign of weakness.
Good men are not easy to come by these days.
Value the man you have.

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As a Young Lady, You Can Be Beautiful Without Being Attractive.

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I hope you know that you can be the most beautiful girl in the room and still not turn heads in the way that matters.

Do you know why? Because beauty is physical, but attractiveness is spiritual, emotional, and behavioral.

Beauty may catch attention, but attraction keeps it.