Marital Success For Singles

YES, THERE IS HEALING — Even FOR MARRIAGES WITH SCARS...

“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

Some scars don’t show on the body.
They live in conversations that end in silence.
In apologies that never came. In trust that was broken, not once, but repeatedly.
In prayers you prayed together before, but now whisper alone.

Many couples are not divorced yet they are emotionally separated. They share the same house, the same bed, the same surname… but not the same heart anymore. And often, what keeps them together is not love but history, children, church image, or fear of starting over.

Let me say this clearly and gently: Scars do not mean your marriage is dead. Scars mean your marriage has survived wounds.

And what has survived can still be healed.

I need to let you have the knowledge and understanding of Marital Scars

Scars in marriage come from:

✓ Repeated emotional neglects
✓ Betrayal of trust (financial, emotional, sexual)
✓ Harsh words spoken in anger
✓ Unresolved conflicts buried “for peace sake”
✓ In-laws interference left unchecked.
✓ Years of praying about each other instead of praying with each other

Scars form when pain is ignored instead of healed.

But hear this truth:
👉 God does not heal by pretending that wounds don’t exist. He heals by touching them. “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

God binds wounds. He doesn’t shame them.

There is this bible example of the scarred marriages but Restored by the Lord's healing power...

1. Hosea & Gomer — Betrayal Didn’t End the Story: Hosea’s marriage was deeply scarred by repeated unfaithfulness. Yet God instructed Hosea to love again, not because betrayal was okay, but because redemption was possible.

This story teaches us:

✓ Love can be rebuilt
✓ Faithfulness can be restored
✓ God specializes in what humans have given up on

2. Abraham & Sarah — Hurtful Words and Delayed Promises. Sarah mocked Abraham’s faith by suggesting to him to sleep with her maid. Abraham agreed to Hagar, creating a deep marital wound. Yet God returned to their union and said:
“At the set time, I will return.”

God didn’t discard their marriage because of mistakes.
He revisited it.

3. Jacob & Leah — A Marriage Born Out of Pain: Leah entered marriage unloved, unseen, and rejected. Yet God healed her identity before He healed her home. When Leah encountered God, her pain no longer defined her. Sometimes, healing starts within you, not with your spouse.

Let me tell you this real-Life story about: When Silence Almost Destroyed Them

A couple once told me, “We don’t fight anymore.” It sounded mature until I asked deeper questions.

They didn’t fight because they had stopped caring.
They had mastered silence, not peace.

The healing began the day they were taught how to:

✓ Speak truth without attacking
✓ Listen without defending
✓ Pray together again after years of separation

Today, their marriage isn’t perfect but it is alive, intentional, and connected.

Healing didn’t erase the scars.
Healing gave the scars meaning.

Deep Insight: Why Some Marriages Don’t Heal...

Many marriages don’t heal because:
✓ Pride protects pain
✓ Ego resists accountability
✓ Spiritual activities replace emotional honesty

Couples want miracles without process:
Healing is not magic. Healing is alignment with truth, humility, forgiveness, and God’s wisdom.
“Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another…” Ephesians 4:32

A Word for Someone Reading This...

If you’re still in that marriage… If you still care… If you still feel pain when you remember how it used to be…

Then healing is possible.

Not because your spouse is perfect.
Not because you are blameless.
But because God heals what is surrendered.

Do not suffer silently.
Do not normalize pain. Do not wear scars as proof of endurance when God is offering restoration.

If your marriage carries scars and you desire healing, clarity, counselling, prayer, or guidance — reach out.

I am available for: Marriage mentoring, Counselling sessions, Targeted prayers and spiritual guidance

Your marriage is worth fighting for — wisely, prayerfully, and intentionally.

Healing is not a myth.
It is a journey and you don’t have to walk it alone.

Kayode Odesanya
Marriage Mentor | Counsellor | Prayer Minister

LETTER TO MOTHERS

OPEN GOOD DOORS THAT REFUSE TO OPEN

SCRIPTURE
“Behold, I have set before you an open door, and no man can shut it.” Revelation 3:8

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT

Some of the most painful experiences for a mother are seeing good doors refuse to open for her children. These doors could be opportunities for education, careers, relationships, or divine appointments. Sometimes the doors seem firmly shut, no matter the effort or prayers.

But God’s word assures us that He sets open doors no man can shut. It is not by chance or luck, but divine orchestration that certain doors open and others remain closed.

In the Bible, Paul rejoiced because the Lord had opened a door for him that no one could shut. Your children’s lives also have divine doors that are waiting to be opened by God’s power.

Mother, December is the month to pray, declare, and decree that every good door that has stubbornly refused to open for your children will now burst open. The year 2026 will be marked by fresh divine appointments and new opportunities.

Remember, doors can be blocked by spiritual forces, bad timing, generational delays, or fear of the unknown. But your prayers will dismantle every blockage.

Hear this encouragement: The doors your children have been knocking on silently will swing wide open.

COVENANT PRAYERS

1. Father, open every good door that has refused to open for my children, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
📖 Revelation 3:8
2. Lord, remove every obstacle and barrier blocking my children’s divine opportunities, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
📖 Isaiah 45:2
3. Father, open the door of favour, promotion, and breakthrough for my children, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
📖 Psalm 118:19
4. O Lord, cause every closed door to become a gateway of blessing and destiny, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
📖 Isaiah 62:10
5. Father, let the doors to my children’s future open with speed and supernatural help, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
📖 Psalm 37:5

PROPHETIC DECLARATIONS

1. I decree that every good door that has refused to open for your children now opens, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
2. I declare that your children will walk through divine openings that lead to breakthroughs, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
3. I prophesy that the year ahead will be marked by open doors and fulfilled divine appointments for your children, in the Name of Jesus Christ.

CALL TO ACTION
Today, identify one door your child has been knocking on. Pray over it specifically and declare it open.

*ANNOUNCEMENTS*
1. Wednesday’s Praying Mothers Service — 9:00 PM
Join us every Wednesday at 9:00 PM on our Praying Mothers WhatsApp Group Platform for a prophetic and destiny-shaping Praying Mothers Service.

2. Special Monthly Prayer Service for Your Children
Every last Thursday and Friday of the month, gather with other mothers for intense intercession on behalf of your children.
Theme: Let Stubborn Problems Melt Down Now.

3. Download Our Praying Mothers Devotional
Download the Praying Mothers Devotional from the Selar Platform today.
Encourage other mothers to download and join in the powerful prayers for our children’s destinies.
4. Spread the Fire
Share today’s letter with at least three mothers and be a blessing to another family.

Kayode Odesanya
Family Prayer Minister