Joshua Garmon

Should you have walls around your heart?

Of course you should.

I think a lot of well-meaning people say things like “let down the walls”. That’s half of the truth. Often people get so overloaded with pain they decide “I shouldn’t let anything in” and those folks should learn to let down their guard sometimes.

There are other people who say “I’m not worth guarding. I deserve whatever comes my way.” Or worse, “God will be mad at me if I draw a boundary in this relationship. That’s not compassionate.”

You’re worth kindness and not everyone gets to have your treasures. Only some.

“Do not cast your pearls before swine,” said Jesus. And he was the master of both vulnerability and boundaries.

A Woman I Know

There is a woman who knows she has worlds within herself. She knows that trying to define her own essence is as impossible as defining “Universe” or “God”.

This woman supposes that if a lover was strong and brave enough, this lover could see all the way to the end of her. Fill her, know her. Breathe in and say “yes”.

But this woman does not know her soul is a prism and the only light it will have is her own gaze. If she would light it, lovers would lick their lips and line up to sing her songs...
..and she might let them if it pleased her.

But this is just one woman I know.

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photo by Dan Almasy

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