Love Evolution Coach

Dear Reader,

This letter is for those with Anxious Attachment. My heart deeply empathizes with the feeling of having little control over anxiousness when it comes to relationships. I have a theory of my own: Could your anxiousness and insecurities be subtle antennas of wisdom?

Hear me out. I know this might sound hard to believe, but what if your insecurities were actually your superpower?

Many people with anxious attachment develop insecurities due to childhood trauma or a rupture in bonding with their parents during infancy. These circumstances can lead to uncertainty about love and a fear of rejection or abandonment in relationships. Having an anxious attachment style isn't something to "fix"; it's something to learn to work in your favor.

Here are a few ways anxious attachment manifests in relationships: tracking your partner's actions, such as their cell phone use, social media interactions, or social life. Your insecurities might manifest as constantly seeking validation from your partner regarding their feelings towards you. You might be easily triggered by a partner who doesn't consistently show interest or initiate intimacy. Often, your anxiousness might lead you to go against your natural instincts, trying to be the "cool" person who goes with the flow rather than expressing your needs to feel safe, which results in feeling constantly let down.

Here's the truth: all the subtle actions encouraged by anxious attachment could instead be clues helping you clarify what you need from a relationship.

I've worked with women with an anxious attachment style for years, and the tool that has consistently supported them in attracting and maintaining healthy relationships is creating their standards for a relationship. It's not about "changing" or "fixing" someone else; it's about getting clear on what is a better match for you. If your insecurity stems from needing to check someone's phone or social media use, then you deserve a partner who is transparent and doesn't engage in social media interactions with other women. This isn't about changing another person; it's about filtering through potential partners who don't meet the standards that make you feel safe in a relationship.

And this is absolutely possible. I have a client who got engaged this year and had the experience of her partner handing her his phone, saying, "I have no secrets; here you go." This man doesn't trigger her anxiety but does everything he can to make her feel safe. If you're ready to attract the type of love that makes you feel safe and secure in a relationship, download The Man Menu today.

During this 1-hour e-course, you will learn how to shift your perspective on attracting the wrong person for you, create your standards, and get clear on what you bring to a relationship. (Also, 33% off with discount code FIRST100).

Until then, continue to follow my social because my next letter is to men and then anyone healing from heartbreak!

With kindness,
Erica

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Happy Holidays Fam 🎅

I hope that everyone is enjoying their last week of 2022 and taking advantage of the downtime of the holidays.

I know for some people, this season can feel hard or emotional. My invitation is to not judge any emotions you are feeling this season…sadness, grief, joy, love.

Take the time to integrate the winter solstice. The winter is a time for reflection, wisdom, death and letting go. The winter is an opportunity to reset and recharge, to be cozy, to connect to your inner child and your inner child’s wisdom.

This season has many more possibilities than just having a Merry Christmas! 🎁

It’s an opportunity to be soft and gentle with yourself.

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