Stacy Idema LLC

When you use complaining as a substitute for connection and intimacy,
you co-create victimhood like it is a badge of armor

Venting is the mirror of your own suffering and struggle.

One upping your problems keep you in the problems

Reinforcing the exact narrative your soul seeks to no longer live out.

I was afraid of my desires and the truth of those desires

Because I knew it would bring out my best in me and the worst in others

It would reveal the lies I told myself
the lie I lived
the pain I caused

the life I no longer wanted
or ever desired

Complaining was the coverup for the glow up I desired

Complaining attracted friends
who were conditional
and relationships I immediately outgrew

I grieved their loss as if I was wronged
without realizing I already wronged them

The depth of it's despair in the complaint
is the depth of the repair you desire in yourself, for yourself

Everything begins within
With you.

This is relational coherence.
This is your legacy
Your lineage