April Darley Coaching

There’s a point in every woman’s life where she suddenly becomes tired of everyone else’s bulls**t.

Enough is enough, and she’s not going to take it anymore.

It feels very empowering and very freeing.

It’s also terrifying if you haven’t done the inner work about being alone.

Because the moment you stop being willing to put up with the external bulls**t in your life, there’s a part of you that suddenly has to face what that might mean.

Relationships are going to change, and some people may not understand.

You may not even want some of them to be a part of your life anymore either.

The concept of being alone is one of the things that causes my clients the most trouble in a deeply profound and subconscious way.

One part of your brain, the survival brain, will look at being alone as decreased odds of survival.

Danger.
You’re on your own.

The emotional or subconscious brain looks at being alone as:
“You don’t fit in.”
“You’re lonely.”
"Nobody understands you."

These things couldn’t be farther from the truth.

But when those deeply held fears are running in the background, it becomes very easy to question yourself and talk yourself back into tolerating things you already know aren’t right for you.

When you reach the “f**k it” point where you’re unwilling to put up with the external bulls**t in your life, it’s time to start digging into the internal bulls**t in your mind.

Because when you can be truly courageous, being your whole and complete self, then you reach a state of true freedom.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t reaching the “f**k it” point.

It’s dealing with everything that comes up after you finally mean it.

This is a big part of the work I do with clients.

If you’ve already reached your “f**k it” point and need some help moving through what comes next, you can schedule a complimentary consultation here: www.aprildarley.com

You don’t always know where your anger comes from.

Sometimes it’s there the second you wake up.

Or it feels like you're a ticking time-bomb one second away from exploding. 💣💥

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That's what makes it hard to figure out where it came from.

You go back over what happened.
What was said.
What might have set it off.

Meanwhile, the world doesn't stop tossing things your way.

Eventually, the anger feels like something you should be able to control but can’t always get ahead of.

In this week’s Bite-Sized Brilliance episode, I walk through what can actually be driving anger, including things most people don’t think to look at.

Once you understand where it’s coming from, you have a different way to work with it instead of feeling like it’s working against you.

🎧 Listen here: https://www.aprildarley.com/podcasts/bite-sized-brilliance/episodes/2149201389

When something unexpected happens, you can replay it over and over and still not understand it.

What happened.
What they were thinking.
Why it ended the way it did.

So, you keep going back trying to find the one thing that will finally make it make sense.

Looking at old messages.
Checking their social media.
Replaying the last conversation.

But the answer never really shows up.

Your mind doesn't like open loops, so it starts filling in the blanks with pain and theories instead.

In this week’s Bite-Sized Brilliance episode, I walk through why closure feels so hard to find when something ends unexpectedly and what actually keeps that loop going.

Once you understand that part, you move forward, even without the answers.

🎧 Listen here: https://www.aprildarley.com/podcasts/bite-sized-brilliance/episodes/2149199324