The Subconscious Mind Project

THE GUILT OF FREE TIME!
🍃When you were a child, I’m sure there’s one thing you’ve heard multiple times.🍃

‘If you don’t work hard, you won’t survive this life.’

This belief is imbibed in many out there, that as adults you think of free time as a luxury. If you’re not in front of the laptop for a minimum of 8 hours, then you have life easy.😏🙄

Even in today’s fast moving virtual world, smart 🧠work isn’t given the same importance as hard work.

Books 📚like “The 4-hour Workweek” are much known and talked about, but you don’t see many actually implementing it; nonetheless, today I want to talk about how this belief structures itself into our subconscious.🤔

The constant thought that hard work alone will help you in life transforms itself inside the subconscious as: Hard Work = Success; which means Anything Else = Failure/Loser.⚡️⚡️

Even though no one consciously thinks this every second of their life, the subconscious adopts to a lifestyle where you actively seek hard work.
When a person seeks hard work, “Free time” comes at a price.💲

You are constantly doing hard work, while always complaining that you don’t have any free time to watch a series on Netflix.
But when you get time to watch a series, you guilt yourself into feeling like you wasted all those time, when you could’ve done something productive.

The irony is:👀
Free time spent cribbing about how free you actually are negates the fun or relaxation you could’ve had. Now, you’ve had zero fun & you did zero work.

This limiting belief makes one question how working less hours can lead to success. Don’t victimize yourself to stay busy.🚫

The first step to changing this limiting belief is to start enjoying your free time without any guilt. It is to understand that you deserve fun & relaxation as much as the work (hard or smart) you do.😇💛

With Lots of Love
Your Energy Coach
Sowmya

🧐As women, we are taught to be a certain way. Adhere to the societal standards of how women should be.

And the rising talks on feminism isn’t making it any easier either.

❌No, I’m not here today to talk about feminism or how it’s ok for women to feel angry.

I’m here to talk about how our mind perceives anger, irrespective of the gender.✅
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During one of my inner work sessions recently, I thought to myself that it’d been almost 2 years since I was angry.

I stopped myself at that thought and asked, ‘What does being angry look like to me?’🤔

I immediately pictured me yelling at someone, anyone. It’s funny how our mind displays this emotion. Anger loses its value if it isn’t directed at someone.

👉We never say, ‘I was angry at the table for knocking me over’
👊We’d say, ‘I’m angry at X for putting the table here in the first place.’

Getting back to my story, I was surprised that I hadn’t yelled or fought with someone for so long.

So, I pondered if I was suppressing all my anger only to hear myself say ‘No’❌❌❌

So then where was my anger for 2 years? Or
Have I attained some kind of enlightenment to not feel anger anymore?

Naah!😆
The answer was right in front of me.
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All the subconscious ever asks is for - Evidence
As humans, we live inside our own bubble of beliefs, values, past experiences & learnings. While we are busy inside that bubble, we turn a blind eye to others’ bubble.

The perspective others are going through makes the most sense to them just like ours. When we learn to see others' bubble - their values, their beliefs, their limitations, their experiences & learnings, you start viewing the bigger picture.
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When this proof is presented to our subconscious, it understands situations & circumstances in a better view.

When you try to understand, there’s no place for anger there.🧎‍♀️
The difference is, instead of suppressing the anger, you show your subconscious the proof to not trigger anger.⚡️

That doesn’t mean I don’t feel irritated or frustrated at times. That’s the cue when you begin looking for the evidence. Because the next step is anger.🙆‍♂️

Remember: Only you can decide how you want to feel💜

With lots of love
Sowmya

🍂This is how the Subconscious Mind perceives Success!

Each of us have our own understanding as to what success means to us.
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Back when I was working for this leading Indian giant organization right after my masters, I thought I’d be making so much difference & if I could impact even one life, then that’s success to me.

😓I slogged for 14 hours a day to only do manual work which could’ve been delegated easily. I just didn’t have anyone to delegate it to.
🙆For 6 months I struggled my way through it & eventually pitched an idea that would eliminate all this manual work.

I delivered on my idea only to hear my superiors say, “This is brilliant but you still have to continue with the manual work alongside your new idea.”😎

I went on to carry this same pattern onto my next job too.💁‍♀️

We are so worried about disappointing our superiors, that we fail to focus on the things that make all the difference.👀
And we wonder, why we have self-doubts & imposter syndrome……
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Each of us, in the sum total of the 100% of work that we do, only 5% of it takes us to success. The remaining 95% of work can be delegated or compartmentalized.🧠🤔
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Successful people all around the world, focused on these 5%.

♾️For ex: a photographer, focusing on the website design for days will do no good, if he/she do not have the quality equipments to take the photos.

The website is part of the 95% & purchasing quality equipments falls within the 5%

♾️A professor’s 5% would be preparing quality content to deliver to students.
The 95% would be uploading their grades into excel.

The 5% is always priority!⭐️
Of course, it doesn’t mean that the 95% is meaningless work. No!
But….

Without that 5%, the 95% doesn’t matter.
It’s like shooting an arrow with no target.🏹❌🎯

Have you noticed how much of your work falls under 95%?🤔

What is your 5%, that would take you on the road to success?🧎‍♀️

With Lots of Love
Your Energy Coach
Sowmya

🏝As many of you here know, that I went off of IG for almost a month.

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During this break, at times I kept thinking if I’m being unprofessional by taking time for myself. I’m sure a lot of you have felt the pressure to show up everyday on social media for your businesses. ⏰⌛️

When you’re always running around, adding to-do’s to your schedule, you are refusing your mind the time to process information & feelings it has picked up over a number of days. 🤯🤯🤯

Your mind then, concludes that you have no time to think & it pushes all those information & emotions until you are overloaded & the fuse blows out of proportion. 🌋⚡️

The mind is so much like a machine & yet not even close.🤖

At times, it scares you to pause & think about reality & hence we keep deliberately acting busy. The thought of spending hours without social media or business to-do’s or work assignments seems impossible. 🚫📵💻

In moments like these, the most important thing to do is to catch yourself.

Get a hold of those thoughts that want to you, to be busy. Take small breaks without social media or business or work to-do’s.

Some of the best I’ve tried & those that have worked wonders for me are:🤔👇🏻

📍Take a social media check - an hour, a day break, whatever works best for you.

📍Going for a run - it clears my mind cause the only focus is on running.

📍Sitting with the nature

📍A long, nice, warm bath

📍Dancing

When you do these small & tiny breaks, you give your subconscious the space to process all the information & emotions collected over a period of time, which to the conscious might feel exhausting.

Make up your own list of things you’d love to do during such breaks 👂🏼

💜If you don’t care for yourself, no one else will!💜

With SO much love

Your conscious energy coach

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