Commit & Conquer

How would you describe love? When do you feel loved? Can someone love you and still hurt you?
Betrayal is complex
Love is not a feeling

Yes, someone can have the feelings of love and still cheat. Why because they didn’t realize love is an action and that it is shown through consistent behaviors (not perfection and not by simple words) but through dedicated behavior of goodwill towards your spouse.

Confucius once said, “A man who has committed a mistake and doesn’t admit it, commits another mistake.”

In reaching my superficial goals, I become numb, uncertain what to do next in my life. Unbeknownst to me I was growing apathetic to my life and to my relationship. A sort of disenchantment. This created a ripe breeding ground to starting seeking validation outside my marriage.

Cheating doesn’t happen in a vacuum, it’s a slow war of attrition in your marriage, it’s a self identity that is flawed, it’s listening to what society say so that it lures you to a place where you can do something you never thought you could do…. To cheat on your spouse.

Why do I share this? I didn’t think it could happen to me and I don’t want others to get caught on the trap. It’s a warning to prevent pain that affects much more than your marriage. You will lose friends, you will feel shame and holding on to those secrets only further erodes the few relationships that remain intact.

Infidelity is more common than you would like to believe. Because of the fear of condemnation when the truth comes out, people hide and further slip into darkness.

I want people to come to the light and to know there is hope. If not for your marriage but for your mind, body and soul.

If you have cheated and are living in darkness. DM me, I’ll send you an encouraging resource to help you decide your nexts steps.

There are 2 paths in communication.

#1 Emotional maturity
#2 Comfort

One leads to an attempt to understand your spouse and one leads to self preservation.

See the difference????