Angel Light Rose

Taking a detox from social media for a while. My addiction is getting to the point where I need to take a break.

On the topic of children, I'll just say one thing. Often, I will see adults reprimand their children for making too much noise, for crying, for being playful even. And I always wonder if that's the right thing. To strip a child away from their natural curiosities, their imagination. I've heard a lady recently complain about her son not being as disciplined as she'd like him to be. I stayed silent mostly, but in the back of my mind, I'm wondering if my concern is why she can't get him to behave. Parents expect that an authoritative approach will fix the problem, but in my experience it does not.

I remember my friend who hated children took this approach and could not get the kid we babysat to brush her teeth. But alone with me, I gave her understanding and more sensitivity to her needs. And I did it. I got her to brush her teeth.

I really wonder if parents did more of this, how much less guilt and shame that a child would carry with them. And how much happier they'd be.

Since I talked about women I admire, I also want to talk about men I admire. I admire the type of men who aren't aggressive. I admire the type of men who aren't money obsessed or power hungry. I admire the type of men who are humble and pure. I admire the type of men who have a life outside of work, the type of men who may not open every door for a women compulsively but they are gentlemen in the ways that count. They have a healthy view of romance and s*x, neither being too prude nor too perverted. Neither being too mean and guarded about sensual topics yet not being too creepy and intrusive. A man I admire is a man who seeks to grow and not care about the stupid masculity standards (e.g. its not okay to cry. If you cry, you are weak.). A man who can be at peace.

*xpositivity

Another thought I had today (frankly I don't want to talk about work for now) was about s*x. I was once in this atheist discord group asking about s*x before marriage. Conversation got heavier, and I made light banter about my s*xual experiences. Light! No graphic detail, barely anything at all. And then, someone said the thing that naturally makes me want to say s**u. They said "Anyway back to your question. Your s*x life is no one's business but your own" and so on. Ugh. You see, here's the thing these people don't realize... I honestly don't care about their opinion at all. It's shaming and it's incredibly rude. In life, I have been so trampled on by others, so taken advantage of, that my heart is running on empty. My cup is empty, and I'm definitely not filling theirs.

I've heard it said today that the reason people are so offended by the mentionings of s*x is they don't want acknowledge their own animalistic nature. I've also heard it talked about how people lose their humanity. But I say that people who don't acknowledge that part of themselves, that part of them that actually isn't as disgusting as they believe, have lost it. They have lost their humanity.