Quentin R. Jiles

As an adjunct professor at two universities this major hack into Canvas is causing havoc. But all student should take solace that a hack won’t be held against you.

This content was never built to be a weapon. It was built to be a mirror, and a mirror does not take sides. It shows you what is there, and what you do with what you see is always your choice. That choice reveals something too.

Some of you have been sending these videos the right way, into hard conversations, into quiet moments where something needed to be said but the words were not there yet. That is exactly what this is for.

Some of you have been using them to build a case, to prove a point, to win something. And I understand the impulse because when you have been unheard for a long time, anything that finally names your experience can start to feel like ammunition. That makes sense. It does not make it right.

A weapon does not heal the thing that hurt you. It just moves the pain somewhere else, and somewhere else is still inside the relationship, still inside the home, still inside the people you love.

This work is about building something between people and inside of people, and that only happens when both people are willing to look at themselves first. That is what I am building toward. That is what I need this to be used for.

She didn’t stop loving him. She stopped believing anything was going to change.

That’s the part he never sees coming. He thinks the relationship is fine because nobody is yelling. Because she’s still there. Because the bills are paid and the kids are fed and he showed up. That my friend is not the same thing as being present.

What she needed was never the version of him that could handle everything. It was the version of him that could finally put something down.

Most men were never taught how to do that. They learned to carry and keep moving the way people do when that’s the only tool they were ever handed. And they bring that same tool into every relationship wondering why it keeps failing them.

Thirty years of carrying it alone does not move in fifty minutes once a week. Some seasons call for more than that.
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