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I recently visited the LEGO exhibit in Charlotte and stumbled across a sculpture called The Scroller, and I really want to share the description with you:

“clearly thinking of nothing at all, this parody of Auguste Rodin’s famous sculpture The Thinker is endlessly scrolling. I (Sean Kenney) wanted to highlight how Rodin’s beautiful and timeless capture of deep introspection contrasts with today’s modern obsession with shallow and thoughtlessness.”

Modern obsession with thoughtlessness. Ouch.

Traditionally, etiquette has focused on table settings, correspondence, and introductions. While those skills still matter, when I look at the social landscape of 2026, one of the most important etiquette challenges is much different.

I’ve shared my thoughts today on The Mannerly Edit

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Check it out then keep your eyes up today.

With gratitude,
Elizabeth Anne Russell

Global interest in the health benefits of the arts is gaining momentum with more governments recognising that creativity should be embedded across national health systems. Wales and Greece are the latest countries exploring in depth how the arts can boost health and wellbeing.

https://www.theartnewspaper.com/2026/07/07/interest-in-arts-benefit-to-health-grows-as-wales-and-greece-take-major-steps

At 96, Clint Eastwood didn’t soften the subject most people try to wrap in comfort.

He described it the way few dare to.

Plain. Unsentimental. Unflinching.

The body changes first, he suggested. Not all at once, but in small negotiations you don’t notice until they become daily limitations. Bones lose their ease. Movement slows down. Light feels sharper than it used to. Even breathing can demand more attention than it once did without thought.

Not dramatic.

Just persistent.

And then, as he implied, the harder part begins.

Because aging doesn’t only happen in the body.

It happens in the room around you.

The circle shrinks. Names that once filled your life begin to disappear one by one. Friends. Colleagues. People who shared your history, your work, your ordinary days. Until the absence becomes louder than the presence.

And the phone rings less often than you expect it to.

In that quieter world, memory starts to take on a different role.

Eastwood pointed to something many older people recognize but rarely articulate: the return to stories. The revisiting. The repetition. Not as performance, not as vanity—but as a way of staying anchored to moments where they felt fully present, fully known, fully part of something alive.

A time when the world still responded.

When someone was always listening.

“You find yourself repeating stories,” he reflected, “not to convince anyone—but to feel connected to something again.”

There is a temptation in modern culture to celebrate longevity as a victory in itself. As though reaching extreme age is automatically framed in gold.

But what often goes unspoken is what accompanies it: the shrinking of attention, the slowing of the world, the quiet distance between generations who no longer share the same reference points.

Eastwood’s words land not as complaint, but as observation.

And in that observation is a kind of honesty many avoid.

Because the reality of long life is not only endurance.

It is adaptation to absence.

Yet even in that space, something remains.

The impulse to speak. To remember. To pass something forward before it is gone.

And maybe that is the quietest truth of all.

Not that aging takes everything away at once—but that it slowly turns life into a series of memories waiting for someone new to hear them.

When we finally slow down enough to listen, are we hearing just stories… or are we hearing the last bridge between generations still holding?

Academic achievement matters. But it has never been the whole measure of a person, and it was never meant to be the whole focus of raising one.

The child who notices the kid sitting alone and chooses to walk over anyway, who shares without being asked, who stands up when something is unfair even when it costs them something, that child is developing something that will carry them further and matter more than grades will.

Character is not a byproduct of academic success. It is built separately, intentionally, and in the small, unremarkable moments.

Be her.

Sometimes it’s the smallest gesture — the invite, the seat, the welcome, the “sit with us” — that makes all the difference.

And please for the love of all things…making room for another woman should not depend on who she knows, what she can offer, how connected she is, or whether including her raises your own status.

Making room shouldn’t be reserved for the most useful, popular, or powerful person in the room. Be open to connecting and not just calculating the social landscape around you (once you’ve seen it you will know what I mean).

Oh, and not to mention plain old fashioned manners ladies! I always say if you can’t be kind at least be mannered.

And when we make room for others the people around us notice.

Our friends notice.
Our daughters notice.
Our sons notice.
The women still learning whether there is space for them notice.

Be the kind of woman who makes room.

I’m Dr. Noëlle a licensed clinical psychologist and Mom of 3. If you’re looking for conversations about friendship, motherhood, belonging, relational pain, and the ways women can learn to find their voice again — I’m so glad you’re here.

There is always room at my table 🫶