Kay Bela Coaching

A topic that has been on my mind a lot lately is ruminations. In my experience as a therapist and personal sufferer of anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive features, and a history of addiction and codependence-related issues– ruminations plagued my life.
You may be asking “what exactly are ruminations?”
Ruminations are a mental compulsion that makes us repeat negative thoughts or dwell on negative feelings from the past. This can look like constantly being reminded of an embarrassing moment from your past or worrying about all the ways an upcoming presentation is going to go. Essentially, you are playing the same scenarios in your head.
Why am I experiencing them?
There are so many different reasons you may be experiencing ruminations. Sometimes, it’s an attempt to predict how something will turn out so you can prevent a future bad scenario, solve a problem, try to make sense of a situation, or feel some sense of control. Other times, it’s more a form of low self-esteem, self-deprecation, self-sabotage, guilt, or shame to name a few common reasons. While the causes for ruminations can vary from person to person, one thing that is common is that these thoughts tend to plague our lives and cause us to feel anxious or depressed.
How can I help?
I provide customized resources and use EMDR to help reduce trauma/stress responses. Then, together we explore various avenues for coping skills and strategies that work best to help you lessen the effects of these thoughts. Throughout your journey, I provide accountability to see how it’s going and what's most helpful, so we can build on that.

I am currently not accepting new clients or appointments, but plan to start operating as normal within the first few months of the new year.
See you soon!
Kay