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AITAH for refusing to watch my grandkids on my summer break?

AITAH for refusing to watch my grandkids during Summer break. Me (53F), full time college professor. My daughter (26F), stay-at-home mom. Grandkids (8M, 5F, 1F). My daughter, let's call her Katie, has 3 kids and lives with her boyfriend. She is a stay-at-home mom with no other responsibilities. I work as a full-time professor and have the months of June and July off. I typically use this time for training and professional development. Katie has hinted many times through the spring semester that she can't be home with the kids all summer and even has gone as far as asking me to keep them for a few weeks at a time. She has quite the explosive temper and whenever I don't do as she asks she throws a fit: screaming, yelling, and name calling until I cave. The day before Mother's Day she wanted me to watch the 1yr old. I told her that I am injured (hurt my knee and it is difficult to walk) and her dad is super tired. She threw a fit and told me to grow up and that dad should "act like a man" and just get over himself. We eventually caved and took all the kids so they wouldn't be around her that day. Fast-forward to the next day when she blocked my phone number and her dad's and didn't even call to say Happy Mother's Day. That is all fine, but the next day she calls her dad all nicey-nice and asks if he can watch her kids just one day a week during the summer so she can have a break. He tried to cave but it was an ABSOLUTELY NOT! from me. Now everyone thinks I am the A-hole but honestly I would rather work all summer than have to deal with her. My husband says it's for the grandkids and not her but I can't help but think we are rewarding her bad behavior. So, AITAH?

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AITA for "causing a scene" over internet?
33F. I have 2 sons, age 15 and 12. Their father passed when my youngest was 4.

Roughly 3 months ago my partner of 3 years moved in (34m). No kids. Its important to note that I own and operate my own business, and make plenty enough to support myself and my children with a lot let over for savings and luxury. Despite this, John insisted I let him "help". Okay, fine. I gave him access to the internet. He has paid exactly one bill, this past month.

Here lies the problem. He paid that one internet bill ($68) and all of the sudden me and my children's internet wasnt working past 10pm. I thought something was wrong with my internet and continuously called the provider to fix the issue. I mean, ALL the tvs, our phones, our PCS, gaming consoles, etc, none of it would connect to the internet past 10. John knew this was a problem because he's heard me on the phone with the provider to figure out what was going on. He has heard my kids talk about it.

Well, last night me and my 15yo were online trying to get through his exam and like clockwork, the internet shuts off at 10pm. I am absolutely livid at this point because its been happening for like 2 weeks with zero answers. Then John comes out of the shower and goes "alright, bedtime" (he holds himself to a strict bed time because he gets up at 4am for work). I told him I wasnt going to sleep and I was going to call the internet provider and "lose my sh't". Thats when he tells me that he "paused" the internet. I asked what he meant and he said that apparently you can turn the internet off on certain devices and "since he manages the internet now", he has it on a schedule to shut off at 10 so that everyone can "have healthier sleeping habits".

Maybe I overreacted, but I told him he had until Friday to be out. Mainly because he saw me flipping out about the internet for 2 weeks, meanwhile he was the culprit the entire time, and it strikes me as a power play/controlling asf and I'm just not playing that game. He is telling everyone that will listen that I "caused a scene over internet". To me, its much deeper than that. AITA?

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AITAH for refusing to sleep with my GF

I (24M) and my GF(24F) have been together for about a year after dating for a bit before then.
She is not on any form of birth control, in the starting days of our relationship we have slept with each other in the begging of our relationship (using a condom).
However her menstrual cycle is VERY inconsistent for some medical reasons, to the extent that her being overdue for 2 weeks isn't particularly unusual.
I am absolutely not in a position of wanting a child at this time and the inconsistent period has caused me some pretty heavy anxiety (I have an anxiety disorder so it's not particularly unusual for me).

Eventually I decided this was too much for me, she had planned to go to an OBGYN and potentially try the pill anyway and a combination of pill and condom being exponentially safer I decided to just wait for that.

Jump to about a month later, she had her Appointment, OBGYN wants to try the pill in an effort to help with the inconsistent menstrual cycle, my GF however decided she doesn't want to take it because of the potential side effects. This is TOTALLY fair and understandable IMO but obviously puts us in a bit of a pickle.
She WANTS to have s*x, personally while I do too, I'm ok with stopping at s*xual interactions short of actual s*x to soothe my anxiety.
I tell her about this and she says she understands, but a week later (yesterday) she tells me she's just going to try the pill. I tell her that is of course her choice to make but that I don't want her to feel pressured and if she's worried about the side effects to talk to the OBGYN again about possible alternatives. She says she will think about it.

Now I've had some friends tell me that ITAH for "pressuring her" into taking the pill by refusing to have s*x with a condom, despite me reassuring her in every conversation we've had about this that it's up to her, I don't mind not having s*x and that I understand her being unsure about taking the pill.
So reddit, AITAH for not having s*x with my GF if we only use a condom?

PS: regarding a vasectomy, I've considered it but seeing as how reversing it isn't always possible I haven't pulled that trigger yet as we might want children in the future.

EDIT: Thank you for all the replies, this is A LOT more than I anticipated. I'll try to reply to as many as I can for however long as they keep fluttering in. If you have a burning question you can feel free to shoot me a DM too.
I'm going to have a more thorough conversation with my GF about the whole thing including potential alternatives to make sure we are both truly comfortable with wherever we go from here.

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