Marriage Evolves
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Love can waver. Respect is a C H O I C E.
Marriages that last a lifetime don’t always feel butterflies, however the two parties have committed to treating each other with honor even when they don’t like each other very much.
Respect means you don’t degrade, belittle or dismiss each other, it means you fight for the relationship, fight to understand one another, respect each other’s opinions, thoughts and voice in the marriage.
Respect says:
1. “I’m upset, but I’m not going to talk to you in a degrading way like you’re the enemy.” It chooses calm over cutting words.
2. No embarrassing your spouse, exposing them to the wrong people, belittling them, or making them the punchline. Love protects the team.
3. Respects says, “My feelings may be tired today, but my commitment still has responsibility.” Thats checking in, helping out, apologizing and choosing patience.
4. Respect looks like slowing down long enough to hear your spouse’s heart instead of building your comeback.
Listen fam, feelings can shift, but respect keeps the marriage grounded, especially when love is mature, because it doesn’t just speak through romance, it speaks through honor.
We all need to work on something, which one do you need to practice more on this week?
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📸: .araq
11/23/2024
Have you ever made the mistake of assuming you knew what your spouse needed, then later realized you were off? I am so guilty of this! 😳
Try something different, ask these questions:
➡️ “ babe, how am I doing when it comes to meeting your needs?”
➡️ Am I meeting your needs now?
➡️ Are you feeling neglected in any area of our romantic relationship?
➡️ How can I meet your needs now?
These are the type of questions you should ask each other instead of assuming. Make sure you have an open heart to receive and hear without getting offended, quick to say they’re wrong, or what you thought you were doing right. Just receive and take action!
🤦🏽♂️Guilty as charged🤷🏽♀️ How many of us try hard not to use these phrases, but it sometimes just doesn't work?
DON'T USE THESE PHRASES:
✴️ "It's not a big deal, why are you overreacting" When you say this you are dismissing your spouses feelings and may make them feel invalidated.
👉🏽 Instead try this: "I see this is important to you, can you help me understand why?"
✴️ "If you really love me, you would" This phrase manipulates and pressures your spouse.
👉🏽 Instead try this: "I feel loved when you..."
✴️ "Why can't you be more like..." When you say this you are comparing your spouse to someone else, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy or resentment.
👉🏽 Instead try this: "I appreciate how you do things, but I'd like to share an idea we could try."
✴️ "This is just who I am" This phrase can come across as dismissive of growth, accountability, or compromise.
👉🏽 Instead try this: "I can see your perspective, lets figure out away to meet in the middle."
✴️ "Whatever, I don't care." This phrase shuts down communication and can be very dismissive or passive-aggressive.
👉🏽 Instead try this: I need a moment to gather my thoughts before we continue this discussion."
By avoiding these phrases, you can foster better understanding, communication and minimize unnecessary conflicts.
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