A Positive Approach Counseling

My heart goes out to all the families that have been affected by yesterday’s tragedy. You are dealing with a pain that is unimaginable.

Yesterday’s school shooting is tragic, heartbreaking, and for many parents extremely anxiety provoking. School shootings have made a lot of parents in America anxious and with good reason. Something to be aware of is that parents are often more worried about it than younger kids are. But kids pick up on their parents’ fear. If you’re wondering how to address the recent school shooting with your kids here are some suggestions.

Lead the conversation by allowing them to ask questions before giving your thoughts and opinions. For example, “ I know you heard me and daddy talking about something scary that happened today. I’m sure you have questions. What can we answer for you?” Explain things in the simplest yet factual way you can. You can say “A kid walked into a school and shot students.”

You can focus on how you are feeling, that you’re upset and that you also don’t understand why this happened, but be careful about how you are reacting. Tears and honest feelings are okay, but process the event with your spouse or friend before talking to your child about it. If a parent becomes frantic and anxious, a child is going to react similarly.

Most importantly, remind kids that they are safe; that you will keep them safe, and when they are at school, their teachers will keep them safe.