The Backyard Buddha

I’ve been silently hating myself recently which has created feelings of frustration, hopelessness and depression.

It has prevented me not only from feeling good but also creating content I’m in love with.

It’s been stealing my peace and causing me to feel like giving up on my business altogether.

After exploring my thoughts I realized it had to do with perfectionism.

I was waking up every day looking at the milestones and big goals I have for my business and saying:

“Oh, you haven’t hit those yet? You should just give up then because you’re obviously a fu***ng loser.”

These thoughts were being created because my standards were unreasonable.

I didn’t know I was setting my standard for success too high.

I didn’t have that awareness.

Once I realized that was happening—I laughed and chose a new standard I could be happy with.

Such as…

1. Supporting myself emotionally daily.
2. Working through my trauma and emotional blocks.
3. Sharing what I can on social media.
4. Feeding my mind wisdom via 📚
5. Taking care of my health.
6. Making good choices that protect future Dante.

As long as I’m doing this every day then I’m going to keep growing and my content will get better.

That will take me to those milestones and big goals.

So the takeaway from this post is this:

1. Make your standard something you can achieve daily that empowers you.

2. Understand the power of exploring your thoughts because if you let them go unchecked they will cause untold chaos and suffering simply because you don’t understand why you’re doing what you’re doing.

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Anything you do with the intention of getting them to like, value and respect you again…

Simply digs a deeper hole for yourself.

You’re sad this person left because you miss how you felt when you were around them.

That feeling is beautiful.

Your desperation to pursue someone who doesn’t respect or value you anymore is not.

It’s rotting your self-esteem.

Flooding your nervous system with anxiety.

Making you second guess everything.

You need to let this relationship die.

Just like Tyler Durden said in Fight Club:

“Only after you’ve lost everything are you free to do anything.”

Let this delusional toxic fantasy of getting this person back die.

Then start focusing on becoming a healthier, hotter version of yourself.

Not only will you attract new partners that deeply value and respect you…

But you will also make that other person crave your attention again.

Somewhere along the way you started valuing their companionship over your passions.

Your vision.
Your interests.

You became attached to their attention.

Their smile.
Their laugh.

Until you became totally enmeshed.

Completely losing yourself in their being.

This act of “losing yourself” is romanticized in Hollywood movies 🍿

But in reality?

That s**t fu***ng sucks.

Being desperate, anxious and insecure is awful

That’s why I created this guide to help you stop putting people on a pedestal.

And instead put yourself up there 😉

Check it out 👇🏻

https://stan.store/TheBackyardBuddha/p/the-codependency-survival-guide