The EQ School

This is not true across the board, so take a breath and stay with me for a moment.

Sometimes we don't do something because we're afraid of creating discomfort, in ourselves or in other people.
We're afraid to do it because it might be hard and, maybe more commonly, because we don't know where it's going to lead.

Or we don't follow our intuition toward something that feels true and good (or don't step away from something that feels routinely stifling or out of alignment with our values) because we're afraid that someone else in our world will be upset by that decision.

And so we disconnect from our own opportunities for growth because we don't want to sit in the uncomfortable aftermath.

But when you finally decide that discomfort isn't the enemy, and that what's on the other side is worth pursuing,
and you learn to let other people be responsible for their feelings and their opinions of you —
well, that's where the breakthroughs happen.

That's where something completely new and unexpected can blossom, because you're no longer living within the constraints of an older version of yourself.

Growth requires learning how to sit with discomfort.
It requires letting other people be responsible for their thoughts and feelings.
It requires letting go of the outcome — of living in alignment with your own integrity and being willing to walk through some lonely moments, losses, and dead-ends in order to build the skills, experience, and resilience to really appreciate and embody the connection, joy, and creativity that comes on the other side.

What scares you about what you want?
Okay, now what REALLY scares you?
What would it look like if you learned to sit with that fear and move through it to the other side?

If you're working on being with yourself in grounding ways and working to develop your resilience to find deeper connection, I highly recommend checking out my new book, "The Wisdom of Feeling" — it's out now! Order at the link below.

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/767885/the-wisdom-of-feeling-by-genny-rumancik/

As the folks in our Cycle Breakers program like to say, Emotional self-management is self-awareness in action—
it's attuning to your body, your feelings, and becoming acquainted with your unique signals that let you know how you're feeling in any given moment.

It's recognizing when your energy dips, when you feel unsafe, when something is not okay with you.
It's also recognizing what makes you feel connected, calm, and like yourself and noting what conditions consistently make this possible.
It's, over time, trying different ways of responding to yourself and finding what works for you.

Throughout our entire lives we do this this through trial and error - we try things and see how they feel.
But to become more regulated, you have to be present with what is —
you have to learn how to attune to your body,
to slow down and notice when you're feeling reactive or shutting down without immediately having to fix, judge, understand, or change it.
Just being able to notice is a giant step toward creating more internal safety in your own body.

Because regulation isn't about a daily cold plunge or meditation practice, per se — it's about learning how to witness and response to yourself safely.
It's building the self-trust to use your discernment to know when to use what tool, or when to just let yourself move through something.
Because when we're present and we allow ourselves to the ride the waves of activation with safety and compassion, the wave will move through us.

If you're working on emotional regulation, my new book "The Wisdom of Feeling" comes out June 16th!
Deepen your self awareness, start practicing emotional self management skills, and become more attuned to the energy of your environment and how you contribute to a climate of emotional safety.

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/767885/the-wisdom-of-feeling-by-genny-rumancik/

And remember, if you order before June 15th and upload your receipt at the link below, you can receive my guide for connecting to your grounded Self for free. Use it when you're feeling reactive, disconnected, or when you're about to make a big decision!

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