Life By Default

A monogamous mind can feel both sacred and dangerous at the same time. Because it is not really loyalty to another person first. It is loyalty to your own depth. It is understanding that your attention is sacred because your attachment eventually follows it. It is refusing to cheapen your inner world by scattering profound energy into every fleeting fascination simply because the opportunity presented itself.

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WHEN GRIEF CHANGES THE SHAPE OF YOUR LIFE
A reflection on grief, identity, motherhood, and the quest tension between safety and what calls us forward.

Embracing Grief: Awakening to Life’s Impermanence Explore the profound impact of loss and how grief transforms our perception of love, time, and the essence of living authentically.

The Credence Frequency – An Evolving Story by T.A Hoyt

Before I wrote the piece below, someone asked me a simple question while working on artwork for the cover of my book: “What is The Credence Frequency actually about?” And the truth is, I realized I had never answered that directly. Not really. I could explain the characters. I could explain the story. I could talk about Athena and Nash, the lake house, the coffee shops, the conversations, the tension, the history, the recognition between two people who keep finding each other at the edges of their lives. I could call it literary fiction, psychological romance, emotional realism, or any of the labels people use when they need a bookstore shelf to make sense of something deeply human....

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Standing in the Question

Standing in the Question There are moments in life that don’t arrive with clarity… they arrive with pressure. Not loud, not chaotic, but steady. Persistent. Like something unseen has placed its hand between your shoulder b…

Why Make Is Make Sense?

“Love is the art of translation” I read this today and yes, it's a beautiful line… but… there is a serious but for me here. I am not sure if lately I am becoming a little cynical… but am I? I flip through post after post, often saying the same thing.Have I outgrown it all?They do say you should always outgrow your teacher… is that where I am? But if I really sit with it, I am not cynical, I’ve become precise.I think there is a vast difference, and I often wonder if people confuse the two....

Why Make Is Make Sense? “Love is the art of translation” I read this today and yes, it’s a beautiful line… but… there is a serious but for me here. I am not sure if lately I am becoming a little cynical… b…

What Changes, Is What Makes You Whole

I didn’t come to this understanding lightly. It wasn’t something I read, or heard, or decided to believe. It came through the kind of moments that don’t ask permission, the kind that shift you whether you’re ready or not, through loss that doesn’t just take someone from you, but changes how you see everything that remains, and through years of a relationship quietly unraveling that once felt certain. Somewhere in the middle of all of that, something in me began to pay attention in a way it hadn’t before, and what I started to see was this....

What Changes, Is What Makes You Whole I didn’t come to this understanding lightly. It wasn’t something I read, or heard, or decided to believe. It came through the kind of moments that don’t ask permission, the kind that shift you whet…

You’re Not Too Sensitive, You’re Finely Tuned

There’s a quiet narrative that gets handed to people who feel deeply. Too sensitive, too much, too emotional, as if the ability to feel, to truly register the subtle shifts, the pauses, the unspoken, was something that needed to be softened or corrected. But sensitivity, in its truest form, is not fragility, it is perception. To be someone who notices the change in tone, the silence between words, the energy in a room before anything is said, this is not weakness, it is awareness. And awareness, in a world that rushes past everything meaningful, is rare....

You’re Not Too Sensitive, You’re Finely Tuned There’s a quiet narrative that gets handed to people who feel deeply. Too sensitive, too much, too emotional, as if the ability to feel, to truly register the subtle shifts, the pauses, the unspoke…