London Reber PIVOT Relational Alignment Coach

As children we are meant to be sponges. In order to survive every brand new experience we look to those around us for how to function. We copy, mimic, repeat and absorb before there is even a filter to catch and discard what is not serving our greatest good. During this process of growing up we develop survival patterns that are dysfunctional, much of the time without much awareness that there’s a healthier way. To be a we must learn the power and practice of having Ｄｉｓｃｅｒｎｍｅｎt.
This means being able to recognize when is a healthy time to absorb new information and when is it better for us to adjust our perspective to keep ourselves safe. Growing up I thought of safety as a purely physical concept. It was only through the PIVOT process that I realized I had the ability to attain and protect my own emotional, intellectual, financial and even spiritual safety! No matter what situation or circumstance we are presently in, as a healthy adult we always have the power to choose our perspective. This gives us the ability to manage and tolerate our feelings more effectively which translates into thriving dispite whatever chaos or confusion is happening around us. How we process reality determines the level of ease and flow we experience.. this can be done anytime, anywhere and requires no one’s consent or participation but that of your own healthy adult!

Thanks for sharing this meme .brea I appreciate how you inspire my light to shine and your contributions to the community!

Being a means having discernment 🔑
Embrace your power of choice today!

is a practice, as is practicing control or resistance. Each build a muscle within us that inevitably affects the outcomes we experience. Being a conscious observer of how we think gives us the ability to redirect our path at any moment. What behaviors are you using to shape your life today?

Resisting reality is driving anxiety.

Put this on repeat and let it really travel from your head to your heart. Up until now, how many times have you identified someone’s actions as unacceptable and still felt stuck circling energy around what they are doing?

Stepping out of fantasy about who someone is or who we want them to be, and into acceptance for who they actually are and what they are capable of today, will PIVOT how you feel! It might feel worst at first until you get this clarity that acceptance of our reality absolutely is not equivalent to approving of what’s happened.

is a road map for a boundary system. With this in play we learn to discern how to show up more effectively, and relationally, especially with the people who’s behaviors you do not approve of. Working with reality empowers our ability to change it.

maps out how to follow your heart AND take your head with it!

What does being a mean to you?