Subhan Schenker

Yes...and No!
The words "yes" and "no" can have a substantial impact on our lives! They are used in a variety of situations; sometimes they create joy (as in the “yes” response to the question, “Can I have a raise?”). And, often they can create anxiety and pain for us!
Here’s a brief look at two different kinds of difficulties that produce discomfort and pain: one for “yes,” and one for no.”
Some people have difficulty saying "no." These people say "yes" to others' requests, when they actually WANT to say “no.” But they don't say "no" because they're concerned that the other won't approve of them, or accept them, if they say "no." This "yes" is not genuine. Rather, it is just used as a social convenience; and the feeling of "no" inside gets stifled and buried! This inauthentic “yes” often creates anxiety, regret and resentment in the one speaking it. They can FEEL the discomfort! Yet, they're still unable to say "no."
The second group has a "no" to many things in their life. They often feel negative about what life is giving them - and feel imposed upon. So they find themselves using "no" as a kind of a protection or buffer to the uncomfortable experiences they’re having. The result is that their “no” can become a knee-jerk reaction to people, and the "yes" becomes difficult and sometimes impossible to access!
Take a look and see if either of these situations come up in your life. And if the answer is "yes," then read on for a possible solution!
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So, having said all this, how can we resolve either of these predicaments?
About fifteen years ago, I did a process that gave me experiences, understanding and insights into why I found myself caught in BOTH of these two dilemmas!
That is why I will be facilitating this process, called “The Yes/No Meditation Event,” ONLINE on Zoom, on Saturday, May 7th (from 2:00pm to 5:30pm, Seattle time PDT); and I invite you to join me!
In this event, you’ll be able to explore your different uses of "yes" and "no," and begin to understand the patterns of your usage, as well as the difficulty that they both can cause you!
You’ll experience how you are affected by the emotions and resistance around these two words. You'll have the opportunity to see, and break through, your conditioning and patterns - and discover the richness of a genuine and sincere yes AND no!
We’ll have time to share our experiences, difficulties and insights with one another; and begin to recognize our unconscious reactions, and how to effectively deal with them!
The cost is $45.
You can register by going to: https://worldofmeditation.com/.../sacred-no-sacred-yes.../
I hope you'll join us!
Subhan