Shift With Beth

📢 Attention high achieving women!

Are you experiencing burnout?

You’re not alone, most high achieving women do

Here’s 5 things that may be causing it:

1. High achieving women
may struggle to set and
KEEP boundaries

2. High achieving women
have the capacity to
handle a lot and have a
hard time not doing it all

3. High achievers tend to
self abandon, meaning
they put the needs of
everyone else above their own

4. Many high achieving
women are perfectionists
and want to be their best
at everything

5. Most high achieving
women have unresolved
or unhealed trauma that
is impacting their nervous
system

We dive into all of this in my group coaching program and so much more, I’d love to tell you more about it!

What else did I miss? Share what makes you feel burnout below! ⬇️

Do you feel like you’re constantly looking for external things to “make” you happy?

Buying that car
Taking a trip
Changing careers
Finding a new partner

None of the above are wrong, but if we are trying to change our circumstances so we can feel better, it won’t work.

💫True happiness is cultivated WITHIN 💫

We aren’t supposed to be happy all the time but I believe you can be at a place of peace when you love yourself and take ownership that you are the one that generates how you feel.

That’s claiming your power 👊🏼

When you learn to do this, you are able to handle whatever comes your way because you have that beautiful, trusting relationship with yourself 🙏🏼

Once you develop that, you can deepen into a soul connected relationship.

I’m starting to fill spots for my group coaching program launching in August! This includes an opportunity to attend my magical retreat in Park City too 🥳

Shoot me a DM if this resonates with you, I would love to connect!

Self abandonment is suppressing your own thoughts, feelings and needs to accommodate someone else

Self abandonment is fear based

Self abandonment is self sabotage

Self abandonment is seeking validation from others

Self abandonment is people pleasing

Self abandonment is a learned behavior, usually from childhood

It can be a trauma response and a lot of people are living their lives like this because they don’t know any other way

My coach helped me see I was doing this in my life and helped me uncover where it started for me

I’m healing from self abandoning and you can too 🙏🏼

It starts with awareness and acceptance

It takes courage and self love to stop the pattern of self abandonment

Having support is essential

Are you self abandoning in your relationship?

I’d love to help you heal from this and learn to stand in your power and stop the cycle 🤍

DM me for info on how to work with me!

Are you scared to say how you really feel because you’re worried about your partners reaction?

So you hold in your feelings and then feel resentful?

But… then there’s part of you that thinks the other person “should” know and then when they don’t, you’re annoyed?

Little by little, if you keep suppressing what’s really going on, eventually you will blow up 💣

This leads to disconnection in ourselves (not meeting our own needs by expressing our feelings) and disconnection with our partner (having unrealistic expectations of them to read our minds).

🗣 Communicating how you feel is YOUR job, not your partners

Need help with this? Shoot me a DM, I’d love to connect!

I need to ask you something…

Are you proud of yourself? 🤔

Or is it more important to you that other people are proud of you?

🗣 There is a HUGE difference

Sure it feels amazing to get validation from others, who doesn’t love that?

But if you’re relying on other people to be proud of you to feel good about yourself…

you’re never going to claim your own ability to cultivate that within

You’re handing your emotions over to other people and what they think about you

➡️ Not everyone is gonna be proud of you

➡️ Not everyone is gonna like you

➡️ People will definitely judge you

So then what do you do?

Believe those people?
Beat yourself up?
Think you need to be different than who you are?

Of course not, but that’s how many people live their lives, myself included before I learned how to stop

So let me ask you again, are you proud of yourself?

If the answer is no, it’s okay 🙏🏼

You have the power to change that and start learning how to be proud of yourself and how to validate yourself

Truly the only opinion that matters is your own about who you are and what you do

🤍 That’s self love
🤍 That’s meeting your own needs
🤍 Thats emotional intelligence

I am careful about this with my clients and my own kids.

Of course I’m proud of them and I tell them that but before I do, I say these beautiful words and I mean them:

🌟You should be proud of yourself 🌟

How does this help in our relationships?

When our partner doesn’t give us validation about something, it’s okay because we don’t NEED it from them

They won’t always and it’s not their job anyway, it’s ours

More connection takes place when you release your partner of that expectation 🙌🏼

It takes courage to heal ❤️‍🩹

Healing brings up past wounds that people don’t want to think about

Our brains try to diminish painful events that have caused trauma

“It wasn’t that big of a deal”

“I shouldn’t have felt that way”

“It was my fault”

“I should be over that by now”

🙅🏼‍♀️ It’s a hard no to all of the above

Your feelings and experiences are valid

I am a trauma informed coach and I feel being trauma informed should be a standard in coaching

Mindset work is powerful and valuable but if you have unhealed trauma (we all do) the mindset stuff doesn’t matter until you heal that trauma

Mindset work can only get you so far

❤️‍🩹Healing is what will break you through to living the life you want

There are so many ways to heal 🙏🏼