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If you have an avoidant attachment, your reaction to stress and conflict is to “move away.” This can show up in any number of behaviors, and one big one is getting quiet. Usually this is because you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and/or as if no matter what you say it won’t be right. The downside of course is that all your partner sees is you going away.
Give this some thought and see if it fits. If so, have a conversation with your partner. Shine some light on it. Try letting your partner in on what they might not otherwise be able to see. ❤️

*I regret that I have to say this every time I make a post about avoidant attachment, but anybody who makes negative comments about those with avoidant attachment, overtly or stealth, will be removed from the account. It is no more difficult to be in a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment than it is with an anxious attachment, but those with anxious attachment are more vocal about it.

Hey friends, it has been one year since I began taking clients using the Guided PACE Program. 🌱🌿🌲 I am touched and honored to walk along side couples as individuals in their journey toward wholeness. Experiences of marital conflicts, parenting challenges, and individual traumas lead my clients to seek coaching services. My specialized training in attachment theory, an Enneagram & Marriage coaching certification, as well as the nueroscience 🧠 education of Polyvagal Theory has given me endless tools and practices to help clients to make big shifts internally.
❤️ My amazing husband Travis and some dear friends helped me along the way. 🌻 None of this was created alone.
🤓 My Guided PACE program serves as a reference tool for clients to remember what their work is. And My God, the lover of all souls, who sees and knows, walks alongside all of us to guide and direct us toward the “state of Shalom.” It is the ultimate collaborative process!!
🗣️ I was recently encouraged to share more about what I do on social media because I understand many of you have no idea. I don’t get real specific here. But what the heck, It’s ok if it is not your thing. 🙋🏻‍♀️ However, you might know someone who needs an ally on the journey toward wholeness. 🤗 An ally who is grounded in prayer and some solid theories that will help them get into the driver seat of their own emotions and experiences. Maybe I could be that for them. 🤷🏻‍♀️
🙌🏻 I always give people a 🆓 30 minute discovery zoom session to see if we are a good fit. And if you are a friend here, and share this post, I will gladly give you a whole hour for your enneagram assessment, or whatever you need completely free. ➡️
I completely believe it is my calling to share the things that ✝️ God has equipped me with to become emotionallly regulated and believe truth, not the automatic constructs of my personality. Any small amount of money I do make allows me to stay home, keep learning, write more resources and give more back.
📧 Just email me at…
[email protected]
👩‍💻Or visit my website at…
https://guidedpace.com/coaching/

Here are some simple tools that help your nervous system settle closer to a ventral (safe and social) state.
To watch examples look here at a video… https://youtu.be/WLJRsWiLYao

Awareness of patterns can be simply mapping the Polyvagal Basic States in the nervous system along the vagal nerve. What each feels like. Then you can access regulating tools to move up the ladder toward the ventral state.