Ember Events

Interesting and fun way to encourage people to use their phones and for the couple to get copies of all the fun photos from the night!

✨ Okay, let's talk wedding invitation timing because I see this question ALL the time! 💌

Here's the tea: your wedding invitations should go out 8-10 weeks before your big day. But hold up—if you're planning a destination wedding or getting married on a holiday weekend, you'll want to send them even earlier to give your guests more time to plan.

And about those RSVPs? Most couples set their RSVP deadline for 3-4 weeks before the wedding, but here's what I've learned as a Washington Wedding Planner:

• Send a gentle reminder text or email 1 week before your RSVP deadline
• Follow up with the stragglers immediately after the deadline (trust me, there will be some!)
• Holiday weddings need invites sent 12-14 weeks out minimum
• Destination weddings should go out 3-4 months ahead
• Include your wedding website on everything for easy reference

Pro tip: Those people who "forgot" to RSVP? They're probably still coming. Just saying. 😅

Planning your 2026 or 2027 wedding and feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the timeline details? Send me a DM and let's chat about how I can help make this whole process way less stressful for you! 💕

✨ Real talk—one of the BEST moves you can make early in your wedding planning journey? Create a shared note with your partner outlining your must-haves, nice-to-haves, and absolute hard no's. 💭

Trust me, this simple step will save you from SO many future debates (and maybe a few tears too). As a Washington Wedding Planner, I've seen couples skip this step and end up in heated discussions about everything from the guest list to the cake flavor at 11 PM on a Tuesday. 😅

Here's why this little exercise is pure gold:

• Must-haves: These are your non-negotiables—maybe it's live music, an outdoor ceremony, or having Grandma's ring incorporated somehow
• Nice-to-haves: The cherry-on-top items that would be amazing but won't make or break your day—think uplighting, a photobooth, or that fancy champagne tower
• Hard no's: The things that are absolutely off the table—perhaps no kids, no specific colors, or no chicken dinner (we've all been there!)
• Budget clarity: When you both know what matters most, it's easier to allocate your budget wisely
• Vendor meetings: Having this list makes conversations with vendors SO much smoother

The best part? You can revisit and update this list as you go. What felt like a must-have in month one might shift to nice-to-have by month six, and that's totally normal!

💌 What are your must-haves and your hard no's? Comment below—I love hearing what matters most to couples!