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Love this article on Post Traumatic Growth. Had you heard of this before?

Growth After Trauma Five steps for coming out of a crisis stronger

This is transformational.

😩 "Noooo!!! Why?? JUST WHY!?"

💩 Have these words gone through your head when s**t hit the fan?

💭 Thinking about the cause of something that hasn't worked out can be helpful in terms of showing you what patterns, choices, behaviors or thoughts contributed to the proverbial s**t on the fan experience.

🔎 Finding that cause might help you to pinpoint the lessons to learn and hopefully not make the same mistake twice.

🛑 However, getting stuck in this more cause-oriented and analytical type of thinking stops being an effective method when it comes to moving on and creating a better future result than the past one.

🟢 That's when response-oriented thinking comes in.

🧿 Response-oriented thinking allows you to create, innovate, and act. It puts you in the right mindset to do something about a situation and move forward through it.

🧩 And how do you do it?

🧠 First, begin to train yourself to to distinguish these two types of thinking, and try to observe yourself in the midst of a challenging time.

🙋🏾‍♀️ Second, take yourself through these questions and evaluate where you're at.

🧘🏽Third, practice & repeat. Use this framework to train yourself over time to move between the two types of thinking, and become conscious of what kind of thinking you're using and when. Both are good, but you have to be able to discern when to use each.

📌 Use cause-oriented thinking when you want to understand the context of a situation and learn something from it.

📌 Use response-oriented thinking to move towards action.

🥰 With it, you can flip a challenging situation that had you feeling powerless into the realm of real possibility.

✅ Give it a try & save this post for future reference. 🙏

Love this reflection.

Articles from The School of Life Kintsugi 金継ぎ

Does this resonate for you?

Have you survived a “lifequake"?

Bruce Feiler, author of the book called "Life Is in the Transitions: Mastering Change in a Non Linear Age," did some research on life transitions.

After interviewing hundreds of people about their stories, he found that, on average, a major change in an individual's life occurs every 12 to 18 months.

And the really significant ones—what Feiler calls “lifequakes”—seem to happen between three to five times in each person’s life.

He goes on to explain that some lifequakes are voluntary and joyful.

They could include getting married, having a child, getting A promotion, or buying a home.

Others are involuntary, unpleasant, and unwelcome, such as losing a job, a loved one, or managing a newly diagnosed life-threatening illness.

The point of his book is, transitions are a natural part of life.

Building resilience - physically, emotionally, and mentally - through lifestyle, habits and mindset is not only wise, it's necessary.

With it, one can successfully navigate these lifequakes with more ease, whatever they may be.

The ability to adapt to change is without question an invaluable life skill.

What has been the #1 thing that's helped you during your own lifequakes so far?

How often has someone said, "everything happens for a reason" to you just after you've shared something that's troubling you or has gone wrong.

While well intentioned, it's not the most compassionate response. In fact, it may do more harm than good.

How Saying 'Everything Happens For A Reason' Hurts Grieving People Instead of Helping If you're grieving or know somebody who is, you may have come across the words “everything happens for a reason.” But here's what this phrase gets wrong – and what to offer instead.

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