Boity Experiential Events

Depression kills, Workplace Culture Matters, Kindness is no longer optional.

I once told a colleague and even my mother that if I were to pass on, I would not want certain people at my funeral.
They were shocked.

I did not say this out of bitterness, but from an honest reflection of how easily people mistreat others while they are still alive, yet become the first to break down when tragedy strikes.
Love and support should be shown while a person is alive not performed through tears when it is too late.

The uncomfortable reality is this:
People are dying in workplaces from unresolved conflict and pressure, bullying, victimization which later causes emotional strain, anxiety, stress, and ultimately depression.

Depression kills.
Through the work we do at Boity Experiential Events, especially when engaging organisations and individuals on workplace wellness and mental health, we hear stories that stay with us.
I remember in 2024, a young woman shared:
“My 53-year-old mother died at work. She could not retire because there was still a mortgage to pay.”
Behind many of these losses are environments filled with silent pressure, emotional exhaustion, and unresolved distress.

Moments where someone walks to the bathroom simply to breathe, to recollect themselves never knowing it may be their last moment.
We often respond when tragedy happens.
But accountability, empathy, and humanity should not be triggered by death.
They should define how we work every day.

Boity Experiential Events was formed in 2019 after I was diagnosed with severe depression.
Its purpose remains simple yet urgent:
To educate.
To advocate.
To mentor leaders, managers, and employees using experienced voices and professionals toward building cultures that are sustainable and psychologically safe.
Because we are facing a deeper gap in our workplaces:
A gap in accountability, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, sustainable conflict resolution and critical thinking.
For too long, we have prioritized technical competency over soft skills, overlooking a critical truth:
Soft skills are not secondary.
They are foundational.
Especially in modern leadership.

Tota we need to learn to be kind.
In the workplace.
In families, friendship circles, everywhere.
Kindness is not a weakness.
Empathy is not indulgence.
Soft skills are not optional.

Everyone can change.
But change requires intention.
We must deliberately and consistently nurture soft skills within our people.
This is no longer just a human capital issue.
It is a social issue and everyone has a role to play.

Let us be intentional about building healthy workplaces.
Let us integrate systems not merely to comply or tick boxes, but to genuinely support those affected.
Let us embrace vulnerability, empathy, and sustainable conflict resolution.