Child Development Centre Aug 2020-Jan 2022

Admission to the Royal Tyrrell Museum (dinosaur museum in Drumheller) is FREE this coming Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.

You still need to get tickets online, but the tickets are FREE. Regular adult admission usually costs $21, so it being free it's a good opportunity to get out with the family 😊

Kajal

Lace Crowchild-McGillis

Select An Item - Royal Tyrrell Museum *Families: two adults and their children 17 & under (max 8 members). Those eligible for Family pricing will find the rate automatically reflected in totals. No additional discounts are applied to the Family rate.

Every interaction with another person represents an opportunity to connect or disconnect.
build positive , which are the foundation for all types of learning and growth, but particularly for social emotional .

Irrespective of the situation or type of interaction, we can work on building connections by focusing on meeting what Dr. Gerald Newmark calls the 5 critical needs of children (and parents too)!

They need to feel:
- respected;
- important;
- accepted;
‐ included; and
- secure.

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Imagine this: You had a HORRIBLE day, you come home upset and your partner yells at you to go sit alone in the next room. You're not allowed to come out until you've completely calmed yourself down, on your own. 😤

Kinda effed up, right?

When we send our kids away during tantrums/times of distress:
✨They don't learn to handle the situation better next time
✨They don't reflect on the behavior - they're flooded with feelings of anger and/or abandonment
✨We signal that big feelings aren't OK in our family

In their Time article, my mentor + colleague Dr. Dan Siegel + Dr. Tina Bryson:
"Decades of research in attachment demonstrate that particularly in times of distress, we need to be near and be soothed by the people who care for us. But when children lose emotional control, parents often put them in their room or by themselves in the “naughty chair,” meaning that in this moment of emotional distress they have to suffer alone… When the parental response is to isolate the child, an instinctual psychological need of the child goes unmet. In fact, brain imaging shows that the experience of relational pain–like that caused by rejection–looks very similar to the experience of physical pain in terms of brain activity.”

So instead, stay with them:
✨You're really upset. I'm here with you
✨You're feeling angry, it's OK to feel angry, it's not OK to hit. I'm moving baby to keep her safe

⁠All feelings are OK. All behavior is NOT. We can stay firm on boundaries, while still being there.
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"But how do we show them that the behavior is NOT OK?! We're supposed to be all rainbows? Kids need discipline!" Yes! The Latin root of "discipline" is "disciple" which means, to teach. And fear is a terrible teacher. 💯

When do kids learn best? During calm, collaborative moments. NOT during heightened tantrum moments. Later, at a calm moment, teach better behavior + coping skills.

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