Coach Atlas

When we try to discover the things that are for us, we also discover the things that are not. It is not a failure on your part - it is simply part of the process. Drop a ❤️ in the comments if this resonates with you.

This approach was a game changer for me.

I didn’t stop assuming things were wrong - I took responsibility for the things I was noticing and how my perception was making ME feel.

And 99% of the time, my story was inaccurate - I had done nothing wrong, they weren’t upset with me - they were in their own world navigating their own individual life separate from me.

In other words - it had absolutely nothing to do with me.

The key here for me was really getting that how I feel about something has everything to do with how I am perceiving the events in front of me.

It’s my perspective.
It’s my viewpoints.

Whether it’s subconscious or conscious, it’s still me.

And that is something I need to take responsibility for.

What that does is it moves me from the victim position to the victor position.

And, it drastically improves my communication with my partner.

Because I take responsibility for my experience, my partner doesn’t feel attacked, assumed upon, or condemned.

She doesn’t feel the need to be defensive, and there is nothing for her to take personally, because I am not pointing out what she is doing wrong - I am pointing out how I feel about the story I am telling myself and the clarity I am seeking from a curious approach.

And like I said earlier, this has been an absolute game changer.

I highly encourage you to try this, as it is a staple in my coaching practice and has helped my clients immensely.

Relationships can be difficult, but they can also be a lot easier when we do the little things.

How do you stay present in your relationship?