ElizabethShermet

📌Loneliness as a focus mode.

I’m not here to spread loneliness propaganda or promote an antisocial lifestyle. I just want to share my observations.

When I started learning programming, most of my time was spent on complex materials. My active social life gradually became weaker.

My stories about achievements sounded like a list of weird terms to my friends. Our interests became different: I chose to stay home and learn instead of talking about things that gave me nothing.

⚡️It wasn’t because I thought I was better than them — I was just saving my brain capacity and energy.

After moving to Canada, the situation became harder. I was alone not because I wanted to, but because I didn’t know anyone. Finding people with the same interests was harder than I thought.

🙃Sometimes it was scary. I had a thought: “Is something wrong with me?” The hardest part was the fear that it would stay like this forever.

But this silence helped me understand myself better. Who I really want to have in my life. How I’d like to spend my free time, and to whom I should dedicate my efforts, energy, and attention.

⚡️These are highly important things. My energy, strength, and presence hold a lot of value.

💡I started to filter who I talk to and for how long. It’s not about feeling better than others; it’s a way to save my focus.

💡I stopped participating in «politeness talks» just for attention or out of habit. I reduced cognitive noise.

I can still join in small talk at the grocery store or the gas station, but it’s a completely different thing. You don’t share your depth with strangers.

I freed up space for knowledge, real insights, and people who actually matter. I found people who like me and share a similar mindset.

This is valuable. I wish I had found them earlier.

⚡️Our surroundings are crucial for our lives!

That said, it’s not about isolation. It’s about priorities.

Always open to chat. Cheers🫶

🌃Night Paris feels romantic at every step.

I’ve never seen so many proposals along the walking paths before🥹 It was quite beautiful and fascinating to look at☺️

I couldn’t wait for my plane to land so I could share these amazing memories.

I’ll miss you, Paris 🥰