Personal Development Coaching

PERSPECTIVE SHIFT
Don’t we all have our daily routines?
These routines become our reality and our truth, which can sometimes be self-limiting.
Yet, what if by changing our perspective we could be happier, more confident, and we could take rigour out of our day-to-day?
And instead, we could use that energy in other ways.
Shifting perspectives will give us a wider view of most situations and, with practice, expand the options for how we perceive our self-made reality.
To start with, we want to ask ourselves: How do we know if our perspective is proper, accurate, or too rigid?
Let me give you an example:
For the last 30 years, I had been travelling the world workwise, and I know China, Hong Kong or South Korea better than my own home country. I never stayed at home for more than 3 months, and taking a long-distance flight was identic to taking the bus.
Recently I decided to change my life radically taking care of my Mum who can’t live on her own anymore. So, I moved to her place, a little island in the Mediterranean Sea.
Since then, everything has changed. For the time being, I’m taking care of the home, the garden, and the pets, I cook and do the grocery. I’m running my business from home. If I forgot to buy milk…uff, big issue because it means another 20min extra drive to the next supermarket.
But this week I had to do some admin stuff on the mainland and wasn’t at home for two days.
Now, being back, I had a huge realisation!
Since my daily routines and therefore my reality has changed, I have adopted some unhealthy habits without even realizing them:
The dishes had to be at their specific place on the shelf, the dog bowl had to be cleaned and stored away right after its usage, the cushions on the sofa had to be arranged in a certain way, and so on, and so forth. I think you’re getting the point.
If it wasn’t the case, I got upset.
Ridiculously unnecessary waste of energy, don’t you agree?
Now, because of the distance, and the time off, I can clearly see that I started to adopt unhealthy habits which were causing unnecessary stress for myself and for the people around me.
As a consequence, I made a list where I state my current perspective. On the other side of the list, I developed two alternative perspectives and I stated the changes when looking out at the situation through this new perspective. If it feels good, I will from now on think and act this way.
I put the list on my fridge so that I get reminded so I don’t fall back into old ways.
ISN’T IT PRETTY COOL? I CAN NOW USE MY ENERGY ON DIFFERENT THINGS.
What habits could you change and instead invest the energy gained into something else?

IT IS A FACT THAT THE ROLE OF ORGANIZATIONS HAS CHANGED IN RECENT YEARS.

We increasingly find that we must incorporate new management tools to motivate our employees, workers and teams.
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🤔 Do you have to tell me how to organize myself?
That's certainly a very common question that I'm hearing with increasing frequency
But how many times have you tried to adopt the same leadership practices without achieving satisfactory results?
More and more we must develop and embrace different competencies to be competitive in the market. Perhaps, for your organization, this could be a new way of working, setting principles and values on which to act, creating new business objectives, or even a new computer system.
WHAT IS TEAM COACHING FOR?
Team Coaching is designed to address everything necessary for team dynamics to work.
FOR EXAMPLE:
🔶 Introduce a way of seeing, thinking, working and leading that helps teams and their members improve their performance significantly to strengthen curiosity and the desire for continuous improvement.
🔶 Accompany one or more teams(s) to help them improve their relationships with each other to obtain pre-established results and (to) detect dysfunction within the team(s).
🔶 Evaluate observable behaviours and question unproductive beliefs, habits and rituals.
🔶 Detect interrelationships within a team that are unproductive or even toxic.
🔶 Align commitment, action and results where needed.
🔶 Strengthen confidence and teach different concepts that can help team members to be more productive.
🔶 Promote the perseverance of effective behaviours.
🔶 Agree to or remember the company's key values and define an observable behaviour, which allows synthesizing of these values.

Implementing the system of "Dynamic Energy Principles" in an organization will allow the company to move from “good results” to “great success”.
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About the Coach:

With almost 30 years of significant experience in International Trade between Europe and Asia, with extensive experience in Start-Ups, SMEs and Corporate Business. All of this hands-on experience has helped create a results-oriented professional with a proven track record of achievement.
Having gained insight from "within the company" I have developed the "Dynamic Energy Principles" system, created to help business leaders and their people understand how they can establish committed and effective teams that can relate to the vision and objectives of the company.
🇪🇸 🇬🇧 🇩🇪 Coaching can be facilitated in Spanish, English and German 🇪🇸 🇬🇧 🇩🇪
For more information about my Team Coaching services, you can contact me by mail, WhatsApp or phone:

🌐 [email protected]
📱 605 39 80 92.

THE THING ABOUT TAKING THINGS FOR GRANTED
Holiday time is simply a wonderful time. The sea, the sun, the palm trees, the lakes, the mountains and pure nature. Or visiting a wonderful city– If only you could always stay there.
Many people manage to turn their dream into reality. They arrive where they have always dreamed of. It's wonderful, they enjoy this moment.
But how often does the dream turn into normal life? The heat eventually bothers you, or the frequent power outage due to poor infrastructure annoys you; the mountains' loneliness develops into a wasteland.
Do you know the audio of the Argentinean guy who moves to Canada (more precisely, to Toronto?)? He hated the heat and humidity of Argentina, the mosquitoes, and everything that surrounded him. He just wanted to get away. So he moved to Toronto. In the beginning, he was enthusiastic about snow, deer and nature. But that changed quickly, and finally, he cursed the snow and the deer, and his existence in Toronto. He missed the sultriness, the mosquitoes, and the heat of Argentina.
How often does it happen that we are initially totally enthusiastic about something, but after a short time it becomes normal, or even annoying? We start to take things for granted or nag about them.
In short, once a dream has been fulfilled, it can quickly happen that we take it for granted, and the dream quickly relativizes and bursts like a soap bubble.
But if we don't take these things for granted?
If we keep reminding ourselves that we have made it?
If we consciously feel gratitude and also express it?
WHAT WOULD THAT GIVE US?

COMMUNICATING WELL IS VITAL TO KEEPING RELATIONSHIPS HEALTHY.
So, why do we struggle so often with communication?
Keep in mind that we have all the means available to communicate with almost anybody in the world at any time.
Yet, listening and understanding seem to become more and more difficult, be it in our relationship, with our children, our parents, siblings or friends. How we understand and communicate with the people around us in everyday life needs work.

Some people even say that communication is a dying art in the 21st century.
Communication is a skill that requires being open to communicating, using the right tone and active, correct language. Having the skills to express ourselves by making sure that others can understand us.
At times we think that we communicate properly, using the right words, intonation and body language. If people still don’t understand us, we start making assumptions, getting frustrated, and telling ourselves that it shouldn’t be too difficult for others to understand what we want to say. -But they wouldn’t.
A simple shift in perspective can drastically improve our communication skills.
Instead of focusing on yourself and your message, and thinking that you are communicating well, simply focus with more empathy on the other when talking and check in if they understand you. If not, re-frame what you want to express.
“THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS AND OURSELVES ULTIMATELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES”

THE THING ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM
I don’t know about you, but I feel that we get flooded by self-esteem calls.
I can read it everywhere, there are large amounts of self-help books, online-course and posts on social media, people are talking about it everywhere.
When I became curious about personal development, especially the “self-esteem issue”, I started digging deeper into it.
Reflecting on my life story and upcoming, I discovered that I had a big issue with self-esteem as a child. Yet at that time I of course didn’t realize it. I could only feel that people rejected me more than others and my only weapon against it was to convert into an extroverted person. That was the role I chose to play. Be it a troublemaker, a clown or a weird girl, any “label” seemed better than no label.
My motto was: -Once the reputation is ruined, life is unabashed-
My parents were lovely, yet it never came up to my mind to talk about my struggles. I didn’t want to cause them bad feelings. Maybe because I thought I was a burden to them? Maybe I didn’t trust that they could understand or help me? Maybe I thought I would cause them additional trouble?
Seriously strange feelings and thoughts kids can have in their perception of reality.
My friends took me as I was, they supported me emotionally whenever I screw up again. But also here, I never thought about “the self-esteem thing”. I simply took it for granted that I was weird.
And here I think is the point- How can we realize that our perception of reality is coming from a lack of self-esteem if nobody tells us, and above all if we can’t talk to anybody in our environment who will support us? If nobody explains how we can start changing the vision of ourselves, the lack of self-acceptance?
Society nowadays feeds us with “perfect lives”, “perfect people”, people “who made it”, and people who “earned it”. Aren’t we secretly comparing ourselves to them, which makes us feel even worse, which makes us hate ourselves a little more? Which maybe makes us feel more rebellious or more frustrated?
I learned that if I want to work on my self-esteem, I had to look for supportive people, people who lead me with love and compassion to become a more confident person, to guide me on how to accept myself in the first instance, and how to introduce the right tools so that I can trust myself knowing that I have it all in me.
It took a lot of discipline and hard work, but the results were soon visible and brought me evidence that I’m not weird and that I didn’t have to play a role, to wear a mask as a protection, but that I could show up undone. That I didn’t have to screw up again as a call for attention.
This awareness gave me so much peace of mind, so much faith and joy in life that I can certainly recommend anybody who can resonate with this essay to start working on themselves. With the help of others who know how to guide us.
IT IS SO MUCH WORTH THE EFFORT! IT IS PRICELESS!