Control and Change

Sometimes change starts with one question:
"𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙛 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙙𝙞𝙛𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙩𝙝𝙨 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙣𝙤𝙬?"

I created the 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗕𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗲 to share 7 simple shifts I've noticed from years of helping people move from feeling 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗰𝗸...𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻.

No pressure.
No overwhelm.
Just a different way to start looking at change.

You can download it here:
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I used to think I had a sleep problem.

Looking back...
I don't think I did.
I had a stress problem.

An exam problem.
An on-call NHS problem.
A newborn baby problem.
A redundancy problem.

Sleep was simply where all those things showed up.

For years I tried the obvious solutions.
More tea.
More coffee.
Energy drinks.
Caffeine tablets.
Melatonin.
Staying up later.
Trying harder to sleep.

Eventually I realised something.
The harder I tried to sleep...
The more awake I became.

Today my sleep isn't perfect.
Nobody's is.
Sometimes I wake earlier than I'd like.
Sometimes I take a little longer to drift off.

The difference is...
It no longer bothers me.

Because I'm no longer fighting sleep.

I'm working with my mind instead of against it.

Sometimes changing the relationship with the problem changes the problem itself.

🚪 Doors of Choice

One thing I've noticed over the years is that fear has a habit of disguising itself as a lack of choice.

"I can't do that."
"I have no option."
"That's not for me.”

If we are fearful of Door B, and we only choose A because it feels safe, is it really a choice?

Confidence isn't about forcing yourself through every door.
It's about having the freedom to choose.

Often the door isn't locked.
We're just convinced it is.

The goal isn't to push yourself into things you don't want.
The goal is to regain the freedom to choose between the doors in front of you.

What door have you convinced yourself is locked?