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It's very common to hear most people saying that the reason for marriage is for procreation and companionship. This two minors in the University of Marriage then require the very relevant majors that without having, sailing through this school could become very tumultuous, if not impossible.

The majors include trust, honesty, faithfulness, forgiveness, love, understanding, commitment, mutual respect, accountability, communication, hard work, availability, affection, romance, good s*x, good money management, good hygiene, attractiveness, home management, and many more.

These may not be available where a spouse feels too important and looks down on his or her partner.

So to achieve success:

Strive at cultivating and maintaining friendship.

Support your spouse to look like what you're tempted to like outside, in terms of packaging.

Make it a habit to have date night at least once every week, no matter how low budget it is. Boredom kills. If your home is the only place for expressing love and giving attention, then you're destroying your marriage.

Create healthy boundaries to wade off family and friends that Satan wants to use to scatter your marriage.

Project your spouse and don't keep secrets or make him or her compete for your attention and love.

Speak respectfully to your partner and be romantic.

Play and pray together.

Forgive each other easily.

Be intentional at making your marriage beautiful by exchange love messages.

Let nothing make you look down on your s*x life nor deny your spouse good s*x. It's the bond that cements the marriage union. Don't cheat on your spouse no matter what rather seek professional help to deal with any difficulty you may presently be facing.

The above and many more positive actions will enhance your major and minor courses in the University of Marriage you've been enrolled into.

So, be determined and committed to make your marriage attractive.

Shalom!

©️MAMA CATHY
RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE COACH
FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANT

So on the greatest need of a man in marriage, responses came in and the highest range was on respect and peace. But truth is, there can't be any acclaimed respect where there isn't peace. Respect is actually allowing peace to reign.
To achieve this, every wife has to learn how to confront the man who wants peace and respect but sometimes create choas through his actions and inactions. Being calm in approaching your man even at the height of provocation will be a much required wisdom.

Sometimes, some men out of pride, arrogance, ignorance or sheer stubbornness create choas but as a wife, choose your responses. This may be very challenging for a wife who seems exasperated because of the chauvinistic tendencies of her husband. But trust me, the wisdom to attain peace so respect can be delivered is recognizing the power of timing and approach. Timing and approach I repeat, and you ice the two with intense prayers. For some, the Bible says cannot go out, except by prayer and fasting (laughs).

Final words, give your husband peace and respect and watch things change over time. These two are the deliverables that will push him to do and achieve more, thereby increasing the money power and spoiling you with the good things of life (any husband who doesn't do the last phrase for his wife after her acting maturedly to give you peace and respect will be liable to judgement before the court of heaven o).
Selah!

©️MAMA CATHY ONWIODUOKIT
: MAMA CATHY

Marriage and family is extremely crucial to the plan of redemption for those who choose to marry. It's not a prerequisite for making heaven, but if you choose to marry, then you must realise it's role in forming your children's perspective of God in this dark days.

It's therefore pivotal to note that marrying wrong may not only damage you, but moreso the innocent children.

So, never choose a marriage partner based on those butterfly feelings, emotions or just some prophecy somewhere. Choose based on the person's values. Feelings may send you into marriage but values and morals will keep the marriage. Values of respect, honesty, hardwork, faithfulness & fidelity etc.

To be able to discern the most you can, you've got to slow down. Build friendship, study the process, while watching and praying. Looks, carriage, sweet tongue and spirituality can be very deceptive. A cheat, oppressive or unforgiving person may come accross as very loving. Marital decision should be based on due diligence and discernment.

No matter how spiritual, gifted or endowed a person is, without strong Christian values, morals and good character, he or she is a time bomb waiting to happen.

Tongue speaking, preaching, degrees, name it, is part of the external packaging. True peace and joy in marriage remains a product of a person's content (Intentional choice to be kind, caring, loving and FAITHFUL).

There are people who would have made heaven very easily that bad marriage has changed them to other people.

As the week begins, pray that God will not allow you marry your enemy or your abuser ( emotional, s*xual or spiritual).

If you are hurting in your marriage, seek help please.