The Book of Knowledge

"I will never be loved" or the Emotional Deprivation Trap.

If you experience difficulties in partnerships, loneliness, distrust of people, perhaps in childhood you did not receive emotional, warm, caring relationships from your parent. And you have the feeling "I will never be loved." It is expressed: jealousy, suspicion, frequent change of partners or ...

Emotional deprivation - an inner feeling of emptiness, a feeling of an abandoned child. The sad feeling that you are destined to be alone. This is a defect that the child did not receive in childhood, and which he will look for all his life in people.

Sources of emotional deprivation in childhood:

▪️Mother is cold, unkind. Few hugs, holds the baby in her arms.
▪️Mother will not give the child enough time and attention.
▪️ Failure to meet the child's need for attention.
▪️When a child cries, the mother does not react, the child consoles himself.

Reasons for the formation of a trap:

The life of every child is primarily emotionally connected with the mother. It is she (the mother) who is responsible for the emotional care of the child. The father can fulfill this role, but in rare cases.

In the first years of our life, we are very close and intimate in an emotional relationship with our mother. Subsequently, this first experience is the prototype of subsequent relationships.

By some signs (we will give examples below), you can assume that you have this trap if it prevents you from living, realizing it and looking for a way to get rid of it.

Sign 1: People caught in this trap as children have the belief that their need for love will never be satisfied.

Relationships with the opposite s*x do not last long. Some people in this trap can be demanding of a partner. You are never satisfied with what you are given. If you recognize yourself in these feelings, ask yourself the question: "Am I just being told that I'm demanding, or am I really asking for a lot?"

Sign 2: In this lifetrap, there may be a sense of chronic frustration with people. Feeling like you can't trust people. Or short-term mistrust.

All our lives we carry the stamp of our first experience with our mother. We are looking for what is missing in partners, shifting responsibility for our injuries to them.