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I [32F] got drunk and experimented with my husband [35M], his reaction made me feel uncomfortable. Did I ruin my peace of mind?

Update: Thank you for all the feedback! I needed to get it out of my system and just process through it from different perspectives because even though it has been discussed, it still weights on me. To clarify, it was addressed when I was postpartum and he did not cheat. After some thought, it’s the hospital event that bothered me most, at the start of our parenthood chapter, and the not knowing where she was coming from when asking my husband to be her date when I was at my most vulnerable.

And yes, I have been insecure and have been open with my husband about how I’ve been feeling. We had a second child and have been struggling with different parts of the postpartum journey ( sleep deprivation, weight changes, schedules, weaning, etc) and been feeling insecure once again. The beginning of motherhood, literally still at the hospital and raw from birth, began with another woman entering our space and asking to take him away ( even before ANY family of ours visited)! So yeah, I’ve been insecure. I’m not apologizing for how I’ve felt and acknowledge I have a lot of internal work to do, as a partner, individual, and parent. Regardless, my post was asking “how” do I get over it and therapy has been the suggestion. Thanks again.

A few years ago, my husband worked with a Vietnamese foreign national who he kinda mentored at work and trained her. She seemed sweet and I never felt threatened. Then she started sending him home with boxes of fruit, purchased some food for Thanksgiving and sent it home with him, would call him past midnight, from Vietnam, to talk about her parents, etc. I called him out, as she is married, and I was pregnant with our first child at that time. He told me she wasn’t close to her husband because they only married for papers and even lived in separate apartments.

Well, the final straw of doubt was when she showed up at the hospital the day after I gave birth to our...