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THE BASIC LAWS OF FINANCING IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIAGE.

BY: IGBINE JERRY SOLOMON
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For Lovers Relationship:
E.g. boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship.
Relationships are the primary stages of marriage if Successful, not all relationship will lead to Marriage.
What about if the relationship was unsuccessful to Marriage?
How many unsuccessful, unproductive relationship must one undergo before a successful one that would lead to Marriage?

Therefore; there is a great need of a proper balanced equations: it's very necessary that your spouse's shouldn't be a burden of financial responsibility or a lability to you during a relationship.
If truly you desired for a true romantic love relationship that will lead to Marriage; as a lady don't be too demanding, don't be too materialistic, don't be carried away by fantasy, etc.
But rather be a supporter of vision, a contributor, a giver not just a receiver.
Boyfriend/ girlfriend love relationship is the primary stage process towards Marriage if properly managed through truthfulness, faithfulness, commitment to each other.

The best approach of either managing and administrating finance in a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship is stated below: e.g.
Supporting each others in everything is an important secret or steps to be successful in your love relationship, that will lead to Marriage.
Equation: 50% ~ Support from the gentleman/ guy.
50% ~ Support from the lady/ girl.

But in most cases the gentleman, has been deem to pay for all bills or financing all expenses in the relationship or it's been expected to take all financial responsibility in the relationship.

It's now a general ideaology that most persons are into relationship because of selfish interest or for profit making venture instead of building a true love relationship that will lead to Marriage.
A true love relationship is meant to be a true romantic love relationship building it on the foundation of genuine love, truthfulness, trust, faithfulness, commitment, etc.
Which will bring about happiness, joy, peace, stability and fulfillment not for business profit making venture.
For you to be considered important, with high esteem, respected and also to be important at decision making process in a relationship as a lady then you must be a giver, a contributor of both ideas and finance when needed, support in everything in the relationship.
Therefore the 50/50% is the safety sharing principle equation.
Because there is a probability of success and unsuccessful.

But in most cases the gentleman tends to be on the losing side because he spends above the percentage mentioned above and some ladies take advantages of the gentleman on the process.
Note:
Gentlemen; never you think you can buy a lady's heart through unwise spendings but u might only get her body because some are moved by material things instead of true love.
Build your relationship on the foundation of genuine love, truthfulness, trust, faithfulness and commitment.
A supportive girlfriend is a practical evidence of a good wife material during a lovers relationship.
Note: This is also a checking process for a partner who is financially compatible to you in a lovers relationship.

FOR LOVERS COUPLE'S RELATIONSHIP:
E.g. legally wedded / traditionally married couples.

In a proper balanced equation or a proper home setting; there should be collective responsibilities delegated, there is headship/ leader in the family setting, the management/ managerial accounting.
The man ( husband) is the head of the wife ( Ephesians 5:23)
Therefore; automatically high percentage of responsibility goes to the man while the woman ( wife) a lesser percentage.
Having this knowledge that the man has more responsibility to make provisions for his family but the wife should be of a great helper to her husband. ( Genesis 2:18)

Therefore; there are some couples who has an understanding of agreement on running the affairs of their home/ Marriage by either sharing or delegating responsibilities to each other.
On this note; it's very necessary to have a delegating formula, if there is an agreement of sharing responsibilities in the family, then this equation will be of great asset management to adopt or considered to be important: e.g.
60/70% ~ for the man/ husband as the head.
While
40/30% ~ for the woman/ wife as a weaker vessel.

Note: for this sharing formula/ percentage principle to be effective and Successful, both parties or partners must have an agreement in place ( Amos 3:3), they must have source of income differently.
While for couples who operates on a single account system or rather combined account does not necessarily need the sharing percentage principle or formula but there should be proper budgeting, savings and planning towards expenditure.

In a proper home/ family setting; the wife has a more managerial position or role to play as a home maker, but all parties should be carried along in all decision making process and planning.

The following tips will be helpful for the Success of the sharing principle stated above:
*~ There must be an agreement between the couples to have a successful decision making process.
*~ There should be a proper savings, budgeting and planning before spending.
*~ Unnecessary and unwise spendings are highly prohibited.
*~ In a proper home setting, proper management and disciplines are in place.
*~ There must be savings and investment plans towards the future.
*~ There is an educational and skills learning project for the kids.

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