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Please help me post and hide my id, am a guy. I clocked 35 years this month . I have one lady since about 5 years ago, as soon as we met this lady asked me to come over to her village to meet her family which I did. When I got there ,all her family both father and mother liked me like seriously just that they told me that they want their daughter to travel out of the country for two years , they asked me if I can wait or she should not go. I told them that I will wait , so where I need everybody’s advice now is the girl has spent 5 years there and she usually block me for no reason and sometimes I will beg, beg and beg before she will unblock me. Sometimes she will block me for like six months, now all my family and friends have been disturbing me to get married and she just unblocked me like three weeks ago.
Two years ago she told me that she has one guy that he’s ready to get married to her, that it’s the guy that helped her to get papers of the country she is living in. She said she doesn't love the guy for anything , she told me to do my papers and come over to where she is so that we can start our life together there. Later she told me to do another country visa that she will come over and meet me when I get there . She said the country she is there is no work like that. The big problem I have now is that since she unblocked me three weeks ago she said she lost her job said, that she is looking for a new job and she doesn’t have time for me. I am ready to process my visa to another country and ask her to come and meet me there but my f£ar is I don't no if the girl still love me like before because I love the girl more than anything in my life. Pls I need advice. Thanks , pls let me know when you post.

Good day admin. Please post urgently for me and hide my id. I saw a chat between my husband and his elder sister. My husband is 34 years, i am 28 years old. I gave birth last month and my mum came for omugwo. 2 years of marriage. My husband was telling his sister that since my mother came, our house aroma changed. That my mum has thick body od0ur, that he is feeling for our son that my mother do bath and carry him around the house and he can't wait for her to leave. So his sister was now laughing. She was telling him that what does he expect from a village w0man. He told her that he doesn't like getting close to my mum, that he talks to her from a distance. Sir, I am very angrry at my husband and I want to confront him. What should I do? This is our first child.

Good morning sir. Please hide my id. I'm a lady aged 31 living in Lusaka Zambia, am seeing a man aged 32, he's still 31 though since his birthday is in September. I work as a Nurse & my boyfriend works at a private institution. We have been seeing each other for over 8 months now i.e since September last year. I met my boyfriend at church, he plays the piano while I sing praises. I knew him since 2021 when he started making advances on me but I always used to ignore him coz I thought he was a play boy because of his looks (he's very handsome). Last year I was compelled to accept his proposal because he always wanted to be closer to me & when I go quiet he'll write me a text saying I'm ignoring him. Problem that brought me here is when I asked him when he wants to settle he told me he's still putting things together since marriage is a life long commitment & since he's not a lady those going into marriage. He's also one person that has never given me money, apart from the money I asked him when I got stuck when fuel finished on the way as I was driving. Sometimes when I ask him for help when I'm stuck, he'll not give me & he seems br0ke most of the time. Note he hasn't been to any college & I don't know his salary but what I know is that in my country, people who work in the private sector get more money than those in the government. Though talking from things he has in his house, they're like those of someone who doesn't have a stable job.One thing I like about him is that is that he's s3xually disciplined. I have spent about 3 nights at his place & when he asks if he can touch me, I tell him we can't have s3x outside marriage & he doesn't pressurize me further . 4th time I asked to spend a night at his place since I was stuck with where to sleep, he made it clear to me that it should be the last time because he can't continue spending continuous nights with a lady he hasn't married yet. Pls Help me to check if this relationship has a future & if I should give him time to make more money since he doesn't seem to have enough. Note: he tells me how even his family wants him to get a woman he can marry. Sorry for the long message but I want clarification. God bless

Hi sir,post for me please but hide my ldentity. Once upon a time l used to live with my dad and step mum, a time came when dad feel siick and diied,l felt insecure in the hands of my step mother,l explained the matter to my high school principal who took me to stay with her in the convent because she was amu, after my form four exams l had to find out where my real mum was, eventually I found her but she was not in position of furthering my education, too baad for me, this step mother knowing that l’m a girl and l might get married,she bewiitched me never to get a husband, whenever l fall in love with anyman, after getting pregnant, the man developed that rej3ction spirit towards me,coz l fear God l had never attempted to carry out ab0rtion,so l have four kids from different guys,also i’m b0red with this kind of life i’m in. Men are still proposing to me for marriage but l fear the rejecti0n might continue,l have tried to speak to my step mother to find favor in her,her response is l don't know you , like wise to my step siblings. May l have advise from the group please, am so ups3t. Pls what can I do to remove the spirit of rejecti0n from my life ?