Dr. Dami Adeyemi-Levites

Just like there are boundaries on food (excess food consumption is called the sin of gluttony in the Scriptures) and on sleep (excess love for sleep is called laziness in the Scriptures), there are also boundaries for fulfilling our s*xual desires (excess love for s*x is called debauchery in the Scriptures).

Read Proverbs 23:2; Proverbs 23:20-21; 1Corinthians 3:16-17; 1Corinthians 10:31

Are we allowed to fulfill our carnal desires within the walls of marriage? Of course! Marriage is honorable in ALL THINGS, with the bed undefiled.

Are we allowed to fulfill our desires to quench our thirst, hunger and desire to sleep? Yes! Of course!

Just like too much attention to satisfying the desires of hunger, thirst and sleep has been stated in the Scriptures as bad, so also is the quest for paying too much attention to your s*xual desires can be a bad thing.

Gluttony is a sin. Why? Not because eating the food is the issue, but eating it too much is the issue. Who determines what is much for one person or the other? Certainly not you! No one has the meter to measure what food is the right measure for one man or the other.

Everything is expected to be eaten in moderacy. A man can eat 2 wraps of Eba and he is fine, and doesn’t feel full or overfed, and another man can eat the same quantity, and he will just know that he has eaten too much!

Just as you cannot say a man who eats 2 wraps of Eba is a glutton, knowing fully well that 2 wraps may be too much for someone else but maybe not for him, so also you cannot say how much a man goes to satisfy his s*xual desires within the confines of marriage that God has laid down is going too far.

Some people have it once in a week, and some have it once everyday! Would you say they are carnal and you they have it once in a week or once a month are more spiritual than them? I bet that’s a no! Why? Because you care not the arbiter of what is acceptable within the confines of marriage between two people God has joined together. You cannot be the umpire. The ultimate umpire is the Holyghost, not you!

Sometimes I come across people who say they want to marry an alpha male or an alpha female. Some say they’ll rather do that and be a power couple than otherwise.

While it is a good thing to be a power couple, know that power couples didn’t jam themselves as powerful from day 1. Most of them built that powerhouse together as man and woman.

You can start small and build something big in your marital relationship. You don’t have to start big. Daily decisions to unite each person’s body soul and spirit as one in that relationship would generate so much power!

You don’t have to start as power couples, but you can build over time and generate so much power, and then become the power couples that you wanna be.

Building as a Team and uniting with your spouse is a powerful force on earth. As long as both parties are united in purpose, impossibilities disappear into thin air!

Can you make up your mind today to build as one? Stop waiting for that perfect moment. Start building with what you have!