Dear Ephy

Stop hiding your mistakes. ✋

​I used to think that if I failed quietly and came back looking "perfect," I was winning. I thought competence was about never stumbling. 🚫

​But here’s the truth: Growth is loud, messy, and rarely goes as planned.

​We spend so much time waiting for the "right time" or the "perfect launch" that we forget:

​✨ One mistake is worth ten "safe" bets.
🚀 Trying is a skill you have to practice.
🛑 Perfection is just a fancy word for standing still.

​Mistakes aren't proof that you’ve failed, they’re proof that you’re brave enough to try.

​I’m choosing progress over perfection today. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s where the magic happens. ✨

​Let's talk in the comments: What’s one "failure" that actually turned out to be your greatest teacher? 👇

Nobody really prepares young women for adulthood.
You’re expected to be strong, soft, independent, patient, successful… all at the same time.
Some days you’re fine, some days you’re just figuring it out.
If you’re in this phase, how are you holding up?💗

In 2025, I set out to complete the 90 Days Bible Reading Challenge. I started strong and read up to the book of Numbers, but somewhere along the way, I got distracted with other things and didn’t go back.

At another time, the Holy Spirit redirected my attention to the Epistles, especially the Pauline Epistles. I read from Romans through Revelation, then returned to the Gospels, starting from Matthew and moving into Mark. Still, I didn’t complete the entire Bible last year.

So this year, on January 5th, I started again. Ninety days, fully committed. By God’s grace, I’m staying consistent, not just with reading, but also with writing down my thoughts and lessons. That is why I am sharing today.

Day two of my reading journey brought me to the life of Abraham, and honestly, I was deeply moved.

Abraham is one Bible character I truly wish I could sit down with and ask, “How did you do it?”

One of the most striking things about Abraham’s life is the intimacy of his relationship with God. Scripture tells us that God did not hide His plans from Abraham.

Genesis 18:17 says, “And the LORD said, Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do?”

God openly discussed His intentions with Abraham, even concerning the destruction of S***m. What followed was a remarkable conversation where Abraham interceded for the city, negotiating with God from fifty righteous people down to ten.

This is recorded in Genesis 18:23–33.

God listened to Abraham.

That level of friendship is breathtaking. It made me pause and ask myself a sobering question. Can God trust me with information about His people? Can He trust my heart with His intentions?

Another moment that stood out to me was when Abraham encountered the three visitors.

Genesis 18:1–3 tells us that Abraham saw three men standing near him, and without any description of glowing faces or angelic appearances, Abraham ran to meet them, bowed low, and said, “My Lord, if now I have found favour in thy sight, pass not away, I pray thee, from thy servant.”

How did he know?

The Bible does not explain it,

but one thing is clear. Abraham was so consumed with God and so sensitive to His presence that he recognized Him immediately. That level of spiritual awareness is beautiful.

Then there is Lot.

Lot was saved because God remembered Abraham.

Genesis 19:29 says, “And it came to pass, when God destroyed the cities of the plain, that God remembered Abraham, and sent Lot out of the midst of the overthrow.”

That verse struck me deeply. It shows that a man’s walk with God can preserve others. Your relationship with God can be the reason someone else is spared.

Then we see the power of covenant and legacy.

God honored Isaac, not primarily because Isaac had done anything extraordinary at that point, but because he was Abraham’s son.

Genesis 26:3–5 records God saying to Isaac that He would perform the oath He swore to Abraham his father.

The same promise followed Jacob.

In Genesis 28:13–15, God introduced Himself to Jacob as the God of Abraham and Isaac and reaffirmed the covenant.

Today, Scripture tells us that believers are the seed of Abraham.

Galatians 3:29 says, “And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”

That means there are promises God honors in our lives not just because of what we have done, but because of covenant.

And yet, after all this intimacy, God still tested Abraham.

Genesis 22:1–2 says, “And it came to pass after these things, that God did tempt Abraham… Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest… and offer him there for a burnt offering.”

The son he waited decades for.
The son that came by promise.
The son named after laughter.

Abraham did not argue. He did not negotiate this time. He obeyed.

Hebrews 11:17–19 later reveals that Abraham believed God could even raise Isaac from the dead.

This challenged me deeply.

Sometimes, God will ask for the very thing that cost you the most, not because He wants to take from you, but because He wants to know who truly has your heart.

I am genuinely excited about this study. The Bible is alive. It is deep. It is personal. The life of Abraham reminds me that walking with God is not about perfection, but about friendship, obedience, trust, and legacy.

If you have read the story of Abraham, I would love to know. What lessons stood out to you?

Let us learn together.

Social media was supposed to connect us, but for many of us, it became a battleground for comparison. It didn’t just knock at the door of our minds; it came in uninvited and took over.

I can’t count how many times I was having a good day until I scrolled.

Just one post from a friend showing off their new house, another person landing a major opportunity, or someone younger than me living out 𝒎𝒚 𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒎 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆.....

Suddenly, all my gratitude and contentment would vanish.

The truth is, social media isn't the problem.
The real danger is in what we allow it to trigger inside of us.
And if you’re a personal brand, the danger is even greater.
You stop showing up.

Or worse, you start mimicking other people just to keep up.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

When you build your brand on comparison, you slowly lose your unique voice, trying to sound like someone else.

And you can’t communicate confidently from a confused identity.

That was me. Confused, inconsistent, and exhausted.

So I took a bold step.
I cleaned out my feed.
I unfollowed the noise.
I stopped scrolling out of habit and started posting out of purpose.
Most importantly, I began showing up in a way that reflected who I was becoming, not who I was trying to catch up with.

So here’s my challenge to you:

Who are you following that constantly makes you feel less?
What kind of content do you consume that drains your creativity or confidence?

It’s okay to mute.
It’s okay to unfollow.
It’s okay to take a break.

Your confidence is more important than your curiosity.

Today’s task:
Audit your follow list.
Curate your digital space intentionally.
Ask yourself: Does this inspire my growth, or trigger my comparison?

Say it with me:
𝑰’𝒎 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒐𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒏.