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Stress Steal Your Joy & End Your Life.

©️ Examined by Ugo Ubili.

Stress is an unavoidable part of life. There is no such thing as a stress-free life. No evidence has ever been presented, which suggests that a stress-free life can ever be achieved. Stress can be managed, relieved, and lessened but never eliminated. If we respond positively to stressful situations, we can learn and grow in ways that wouldn’t be possible otherwise.

The first step in managing stress is recognizing it in your life. Everyone feels stressed in a different way through physical and emotional response to new or challenging situations. You may get angry or irritable, lose sleep, or have headaches or an upset stomach. Once you know what signals to look for, you can start to manage it.

But there’s no one-size-fits-all solution to stress management. That’s why it’s important to experiment and find out what works best for you. Whether you’re looking to reduce your overall stress levels, avoid unnecessary stressors in your life, or deal with stress in the moment. The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances.

Almost any form of physical activity can act as a stress reliever. Even if you're not an athlete or you're out of shape, exercise can still be a good stress reliever.Exercise can also refocus your mind on your body's movements. This refocus can improve your mood and help the day's irritations fade away. So go on a walk, take a jog, clean your house, bike, swim, or do anything else that gets you active.

Laugh more. A good sense of humor can't cure all ailments. But it can help you feel better, even if you have to force a fake laugh through your grumpiness. When you laugh, it lightens your mental load. It also causes positive physical changes in the body. Laughter fires up and then cools down your stress response.

Connect with others.When you're stressed and irritable, you may want to isolate yourself. Yes, isolation is a deep sign after depression of stress.
Instead, reach out to family and friends and make social connections. Even one good friend who listens can make a difference. It is a good stress reliever because it can offer distraction, give support, and help you put up with life's up and downs.

The greatest weapon against stress is your ability to choose one thought over another. Stress acts as an accelerator: it will push you either forward or backward, but you choose which direction. It’s not stress that kills us. It’s our reaction to it. Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. You’re braver than you believe and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle. That's why some people are at best and perform better under stress. To others, It’s not how far you fall, it’s how high you bounce back.

When you find yourself stressed, ask yourself one question: Will this matter in 5 years from now? If yes,then do something about the situation. If not, then let it go because if you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago. Times of stress are also times that are signals for growth, and if we use adversity properly, we can grow through adversity. Beware of eating too much, smoking, drinking alcohol or using illicit drugs, sleeping too much or not sleeping enough is not about the solution.

Don’t believe every worry thought you have because some of them are notoriously inaccurate. The number one root of all illnesses, as we know, is stress. God will never give you anything you can’t handle, so don’t stress.

On November 6, 1976, Nigerian musicologist Ayo Bankole and his wife, Toro, were brutally murdered by his half-brother while sleeping in their bed in their own home in Lagos. Bankole was just 41.

Ayo Bankole was born on May 17, 1935, into a musical and culturally enriched Yoruba family in Jos, Nigeria. His father, Theophilus Abiodun Bankole, served as the organist and choirmaster at St. Luke’s Anglican Church in Jos. His mother, equally musically inclined, was a dedicated music instructor for many years at Queen’s School, Ede, one of the foremost Federal Government girls’ schools now in Osun State. In such a home, music was not a pastime; it was a calling.

Even as a child, Ayo exhibited a natural affinity for music. Recognising this rare gift early, his father made a life-shaping decision: in 1941, when Ayo was just six, he sent him to live with his grandfather, Akinje George, in Lagos. George, a respected organist and choirmaster at First Baptist Church, Lagos, was a towering musical figure in his own right and took the young boy under his wing. From him, Ayo received his first formal training on the piano and harmonium, and more than that, an immersion in a rich variety of musical traditions.

George often invited friends over to listen to his grandson play, proudly exhibiting the boy’s prodigious talent. By the age of seven, Ayo Bankole was already dazzling guests with his performances.

His formal musical education began in Nigeria but soon took him abroad. He studied at the prestigious Guildhall School of Music and Drama in London, where he earned a diploma in composition and piano performance. He later proceeded to study ethnomusicology at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA), demonstrating his deep interest in the marriage between traditional African sounds and Western classical structures.

Upon returning to Nigeria in 1966, Bankole established himself as one of the country’s most important classical composers. He taught music at various institutions and played a crucial role in shaping the musical direction of post-independence Nigeria. At a time when the country was seeking its cultural identity, Bankole stood as a bridge between worlds: his compositions drawing from Yoruba folklore, Christian liturgy, and the structures of European classical music.

His body of work is both profound and innovative. He composed choral pieces, solo instrumental works, orchestral music, and liturgical pieces. Notable among them are Oboe Sonata, Toccata for Organ and Orchestra, Te Deum Laudamus, Yoruba Hymns, and a large body of vocal music deeply rooted in African traditional melodies. His Piano Sonata No. 2 remains a striking blend of the twelve-tone technique and Yoruba rhythmic patterns.

Yet, behind the academic acclaim and creative brilliance was a man of deep introspection and quiet dignity. He was known for his humility, strong Christian faith, and an unwavering dedication to the promotion of African classical music. He believed fervently in the potential of African music to stand on the global stage—not as imitation, but as innovation.

Tragically, his life was cut short on November 6, 1976, when he was murdered with his wife in Lagos by his half-brother, who was later reported to suffer from mental illness. The shocking nature of his death sent a wave of grief through Nigeria’s artistic and academic communities. It was not just a loss of a man, but of a musical future that held limitless promise.

Most of Bankole’s works are unpublished, since in his day, there was not a single publishing firm in Nigeria to put his works into print, and black composers had serious problems at that time publishing their compositions in Europe and the United States.

Today, Ayo Bankole is remembered as a pioneer, one who fearlessly walked the line between tradition and modernity, between the spiritual and the scholarly. Though his life ended far too soon, his music continues to echo, reminding generations that Africa, too, has symphonies to sing.