Family Defence Prayer Conference

3 common problems that leads to Crises in marriage

1. Many children (3+)

Big families are more common in some under developing countries of the world
but still the number of kids in the family must be well thought and planned by couples.

Problems that may arise from this aside from the budget is the lost of privacy and personal space.
Couple may suffer working for the family and kids need alone forgetting about their own needs.

As they strive hard to support the family,
couples forget enjoying each other companionship
and having a little fun that gradually become the cause for marriage in crisis.

Later in their marriage life they will find that they are growing
apart and do not love each other anymore.

The emotions just died down.

2. Being too conscious about what other people say

Image or reputation is everything.
Partners do want to please everybody especially the other people looking at them.

Husbands sometimes are too keen with their status,
image, and what others think that they consider them as more important than
what their own spouse thinks that lead to marriage in crisis.

Gathering comments for decision or plain discussion is good but if you make it as the main basis of your decision rather than your partner then you need to revisit discussions and events and realize that you have ignored your partner fully.

Marriage involves making decisions as partners first considering other people opinions.

Always remember that other people do not govern your life nor strive to work for the success and well-being of your family but you and your partner do need to work so the relationship and the marriage may survive.

3. Too proud to accept wife's opinion

People who are too proud to accept mistakes about their opinions do not listen to their partners but simply make their words a rule in the house.

This will lead to the wife having no participation in the decision-making about things in the house,
the kids, and the marriage.

This situation may survive for a limited number of years
but not for the life of the marriage because ignoring your partner opinion
will make her feel ignored, less valued,
and naturally make her feel upset that it begins to break her confidence
and psychologically influences her self-worth. The husband may think that this behavior is normal since he thinks of himself as head of the family.

Try to revisit some major decisions and events in your life
and you will know that you are the only one making the decision
and your wife is trying hard to make a little life of her own.
This leads to a marriage in crisis that deliberately set you apart from your partner.

Then your partner tries to cope up her breaking self-worth crisis by building a separate life of her own even if you are still living together.

The moment she regains her self-worth and confidence she will ultimately decide to leave you especially if she is successful with her career or business and unknowingly you have never been a part of it.

Things That God Cannot Do ?
God cannot sin. The Bible says He is without sin and that He is just, holy, righteous and undefiled. He is pure and good and therefore could not ever sin. Because God is sinless and holy, He cannot allow sin (even one) into Heaven. The Bible says we have all sinned and fallen short of God’s standard. What is sin? What is that standard? The Bible says it’s “The Ten Commandments.”
God cannot stop loving you. He’s given you everything you hold precious. Your life, your family, your job, and everything else that’s good in your life. Jesus said broad is the road that leads to destruction and many go that way, but narrow is the path and small is the gate that leads to life and few there are that find it. God loves you more than you can imagine and He doesn't want you to spend eternity in Hell. Since God cannot just let you go for the sins you've committed, He made a way for you to be forgiven. It’s not His will for you to perish and He wants you in Heaven so much He did something amazing, remarkable, and unthinkable! Instead of making us take the punishment we deserve, He took the punishment for our sins on Himself that we may be forgiven. The Bible says He made Him who knew no sin, sin for us and that He illustrated His love towards us in that Christ died for us while we were still sinners. The Bible says He so loved the world He gave His one and only Son that whoever would put their faith and trust in Him would not perish but have everlasting life. That means if you will humbly confess and then forsake (turn away from your sins) and put your full faith and trust in Jesus, God will forgive you of all your sins and give you what you don’t deserve, everlasting life in Heaven, thanks to His Son and your Savior, Jesus Christ.