LifeExcel Resource Centre

Looking forward to having you join today’s .

Register here: https://lu.ma/scmarch24

Failure should not be the end of the story for your life’s dream. No matter how fatal your experience with failure has been, there’s something good that can come out of it.

Understanding failures, how excellence is linked to failure and how to utilise them for your good is a core skill for growth and success, both in life and business.

Join me at this month’s edition of and let’s explore this topic together.

It’s this Saturday. Time is 9am (Lagos) | 7pm (Sydney)

Register via the link below to receive the livestream link when I go live.

https://lu.ma/scmarch24

—
Apeh Omede, PhD

There are 2 ways to respond to failure - Fail-proof (fail-safe) or Failure-resilient.

For me, I believe it is better to seek to be failure-resilient than fail-proof (fail-safe), and here's why.

Most people focus on being fail-proof (fail-safe) as their defence strategy. It works but the problem with this is that you don’t learn anything about failure and so you do not know how to prepare for failure if it happens.

Further, when dealing with human nature, fail-proof is never 100% possible.

And so when failure eventually happens within a supposed fail-proof system, it is usually disastrous because no one knows what to do to arrest the situation until things are beyond repair. People do not know what to do in a 'failed' fail-safe situation because they do not have experience with such a situation.

They fail over and over again because they trust their ‘frail’ system and choose to play the short game rather than face the fear of failing and getting up back again.

On the other hand, failure-resilient people do not fear failure. They expect it. They prepare for it but never count it off as impossible.

With this, they build a mental resilience that empowers them to face any form of failure. When failure happens, they stand up to their feet, learn from the process and keep moving.

Most importantly, through the process, they learn where loopholes exist in the system and they seal them up with higher performance strategies that ensure success.

They don’t feel like they are failing in the same thing over and over again. Instead, they feel growth as each time, they become better!

I hope this helps.

If you’ll like to further explore the topic of failing, join me on this month’s edition of as we discuss ‘Understanding Failures.

It’s going to hold on Saturday, 30th March 2023, 9am WAT | 7pm AEDT.

The link to register is https://lu.ma/scmarch24

--
Apeh Omede, PhD

I’ve had my fair share of failures.

During my university days, I traveled to visit a close friend at another higher institution and also to have a quiet time to read for an exam. I took note of the time table and knew when a particular exam was meant to be held. I came back prepared for the exam only to learn that there was a change in the time table. The exam had been taken. I failed the unit.

In the first semester of my 4th year, I failed another unit on agricultural statistics because I didn’t buy a textbook written by the chief lecturer of the unit.

The first time I applied for World’s Poultry Science Young Scientist Award, I was not successful. In fact, a professor who helped to review my application materials bluntly told me I was not going to be successful. But I went on to apply. I’ve now won the award 3 times.

I failed at convincing 3 different ladies in my journey to marriage to be my wife. I wasn’t playing games with them. I was damn serious. It was a fourth time that finally worked.

It took me more than a 100 applications to finally secure a scholarship, and when it happened, there were multiple offers. But I tasted scholarship rejections before then@.

These past 2 weeks, I’ve had two rejected applications in an attempt to secure research grants.

Today, I’m in a job I love and always dreamed of, where I know my purpose would gain expression. It took me several failures and rejections to get to where I am today.

Why am I sharing these with you? To let you know that:

1. If you’re experiencing failures, you are not alone.
2. Failing doesn’t make you less of a human than anyone else.
3. Failure is not the end of the world, not the end of God’s plan and purpose for you.
4. Coming from failure to success gives you the authority to stand up and speak on a subject matter.
5. It is better to be failure-resilient than to be fail-proof (fail-safe). I’ll discuss this in another post.

I encourage you to enjoy the process. Success will happen in the end of the journey.

Keep faith! Continue to work hard!

I hope this helps.

—
Apeh Omede, PhD

If you are not failing..

If you are not failing, you are not venturing into new territory. This does not mean that all journey into new territory is faced with failure. There are people who ventured into new things just once and succeeded.

But sometimes, failure is the only way you know you are making progress. This should be obvious because failure can only happen when you are trying something new or different.

There were times I tried certain things so many times without success. When I eventually succeeded, and looked back to where I had journeyed from, I could see how much growth I’ve experienced.

Failure is not your enemy. Failure is there to bring out some part of you that’s not known to you and the people around you.

Learning to love failure as much as you love to succeed makes you a better person every day. It makes you courageous and prepares you to take any opportunity thrown at you.

This is what differentiates you from everyone you admire for what they’ve achieved.

I encourage you to change your perspective about failure and give yourself a chance to try that new idea.

I hope this helps.

Apeh Omede, PhD