Wisdom Within

Holding Space for the Feminine

When men are unhealed with the feminine, they become cut off from their masculine core and shaky in what it means to hold space.

They over identify with women’s feelings to such an extent they become disabled from their capacity to simply be with her through her storm.

Dreading failure and being unable to cope with the possibility of “f**king it up”, at the first sign of a woman’s volatility they’re out.

Avoidant patterns like shutting her down and shutting her out, demeaning her by calling her dramatic, or heightening his level of stoicism in a moment where her emotions are heightened are all ways the masculine displays his wound to his Beloved.

I can’t begin to tell you the immense amount of pain and grief a woman feels when her partner shuts down in the moment where she so desperately seeks to be held – even for a moment in her chaos.

How painful it is when she feels judged or shamed for her feelings, rather than valid and seen.

Most men have never come face to face with the beauty that can unfold when space-holding is done right because they’re too afraid of being lost in the Dark feminine.

As women, our inner worlds can be turbulent and feral – sometimes our pain seeps past our lips before we’ve fully processed our way through our feelings, and we need to talk it out in order to understand ourselves deeper. It doesn’t always make sense, and what we need is to feel safe.

This process is a chance for a men to witness their woman in one state and gently hold for her as she moves into a higher vibration.

Unfortunately, most men will take her words and wear them like armour, they will identify with her feelings as if they are responsible for them – and knowing they will inevitably fail to change her feelings, they give up.

Space holding does NOT mean changing how she feels.
Space holding is not about DOING.
Space holding is not about judging.
Space holding is an energetic invitation for your woman to feel safe enough to process her shadow emotions, fears, insecurities or moments of vulnerability without shame.

Being in the same room with her is not space holding if you’ve closed your heart or judged her for having her feelings.
Space holding is an awareness that you are not responsible for doing anything, but being present and willing to stay heart open with her even if she withdraws until she feels safe to open up again.

Men, please heal your wounds with the feminine.
Please see your partners in their most vulnerable moments as powerful and capable of moving through their emotions.
Please recognize that while your woman doesn’t need you to do anything, she may be frustrated by battling with your inner 18 year old when all she wants is to feel safe and loved in her moments of darkness.

You have the capacity to be a mountain for your woman.
When you show up and hold space without taking things personally, when you pay attention and LISTEN, when you drop your ego and simply allow her to tell you what she needs – she will shift.

It can take mere moments for a woman to move through the darkness into the light when she feels safe.

But when she is judged, or her partner shuts down, the darkness is amplified and the shift takes much longer.
There’s big work to do in this realm between the Masculine and the Feminine.

Author: Sheleana Aiyana

(And yes, there should also be space to heal the Masculine, it should be an equal journey in Love and respect)

"THE LESSON OF THE SOUL

(Thank you Himmat for this beautiful post🤍)
Sitting at a round table, the souls chose their next lesson.

A brave and strong soul arose:

– This time I'm going to Earth to learn how to forgive. Who will help me in this?
Compassionate and even a little frightened souls began to speak:
– This is one of the most difficult lessons... You can throughout your life not manage. You will suffer so much. We feel sorry for you. But we love you and we will help you…

A soul said to him:

– I am ready to go with you to Earth and help you. I will become your husband. In our family life many problems will be my fault and you will learn to forgive me.
The second soul sighed:
– I can also become one of your parents, I can give you a difficult childhood, then I will intervene in your life, make things difficult for you, and you will learn to forgive me.

The third soul said to him:

– And I will be one of your bosses and I will often treat you unfairly, with arrogance, so that you can learn to feel the feeling of forgiveness.
And other souls agreed to meet with him at different times, to reinforce the lesson...
So each soul chose their lesson, assigned their roles, thought of an interconnected life plan where they would learn and instruct each other, and came down to Earth to realize them.

But there is a peculiarity of souls: at the moment of birth, their memory is erased. And only some realize that many events are not accidental and each person appears in our life exactly when we need it most to learn a lesson...
I wish you success in learning the Lessons of Life."

Text taken via Cristi Lazar

"We do not become healers. We came as healers. We are!
Some of us are still catching up to what we are.

We do not become storytellers. We came as carriers of the stories we and our ancestors actually lived. We are.
Some of us are still catching up to what we are.

We do not become artists. We came as artists. We are.
Some of us are still catching up to what we are.

We do not become writers, dancers, musicians, helpers, peacemakers. We came as such. We are!
Some of us are still catching up to what we are.

We do not learn to Love in this sense. We came as Love. We are Love! Some of us are still catching up to who we truly are."
~ Clarissa Pinkola Estes~

Photo: This image shows a digital artwork depicting an elderly person holding a bowl, identified as "Force of Nature" by artist PsychWitch.

for the Woman's Soul

So many of you are familiar with the idea that you are a bridge generation, as many generations that came before you have been a bridge generation too. That is how you can look at your evolution as a human and how it affects the collective as a whole. But you are also a bridge body, and your cosmic body is the bridge between you and the height of your soul. It helps to fertilize the energies that you are going to allow into your body before they hit your human body. This is how many of you become aware of your future timelines. You connect up to what's possible.

The reason we bring this to your attention is that, for many of you, focusing on your cosmic body will be relief. For example, if you are struggling with the density of the world or your life or what you are experiencing, taking a moment to sit and invite a connection with your cosmic body far above you will help. You will remember that there is a part of you that relates to your future possibilities that is deeply connected to you even today. It is not always appropriate for you to become your full cosmic self while incarnate on earth. But much like a drip-feed process, you slowly become more of your cosmic body as you are able to.

From – Connect with Your Cosmic Body