John Shackleton

Anyone seen this guy before? It's quite a long video but very interesting, well worth a look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kc_Jq42Og7Q (and yes, I'm aware of the irony of posting it!)

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This is so true

I recently went to a wedding at which phones were not allowed. Literally. I don’t mean a scenario in which your stubborn auntie could sneak a phone in because “she’s elder” and thus cannot be told anything but rather I legitimately mean your phone was confiscated at the door. How ever would the aunties take blurry selfies of themselves?!

Now I’m not going to lie. At first I thought “wait. what? There’s no way I can enjoy this.” Think about that. I correlated enjoying an event with being able to take pictures. And unfortunately that’s the sad reality of the world we live in. It’s not completely our fault. Gen Z is the first generation to grow up completely in the digital age and as millennial I share a lot of the same mentality. We are surrounded by so much content and have infinite ways to express ourselves. To make matters even more complicated I vlog and post on social media for a living!

However it is our job to give ourselves a reality check because no one else is going to do it for us. Let’s not be victims to our circumstances and get better at drawing the line. Every time I meet someone really exciting or attend an awesome event, my experience is greeted with “pics or it didn’t happen!” We believe that EXPERIENCING something isn’t valid without CAPTURING the experience. And honestly, that’s pretty sad. What’s even sadder is how this expectation and pressure has affected our experience.

Be honest, how many of you have been at a concert and watched the best moments of it through your phone screen because you were capturing an IG story? Or snapchat. Or instavid. Or live streaming. Or Vlogging. I know I have many times and to be honest I spent way too much money on these Beyonce tickets to be acting whack like that.

Furthermore, if you miss capturing something awesome, you almost feel like you failed. Like the experience wasn’t perfect. Like you missed an opportunity. When really you’re there LIVE and didn’t miss anything.

You want to know the truth? Capturing content is great. It’s fun. Let’s be honest, it feels good to put our best foot forward on social media and show the world how fabulous we (and our desserts) are. But can I tell you something? I had so much authentic, genuine fun at that wedding without my phone because I wasn’t capturing pictures, rather I was creating vivid memories.

Forget “pics or it didn’t happen.” Instead, memories or it didn’t happen.

Here’s to a more enjoyable human experience where the best photo album is the one in your mind and the best stories don’t disappear in 24 hours.

Sending vibes,
Lil x

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John Shackleton – Motivational Speaker NZ | Mindfulness and Resilience for Teachers

"Your life is a reflection of how you sleep, and how you sleep is a reflection of your life." -Dr. Rafael Pelayo. Is that true for you too? I know in my most stressful moments sleep eluded me just when I needed it most.

John Shackleton – Motivational Speaker NZ | How did you sleep? By John Shackleton on April 9, 2018 in Blog 0 “Your life is a reflection of how you sleep, and how you sleep is a reflection of your life.” -Dr. Rafael Pelayo Do you sometimes wake up in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep because you’ve got a thousand things on your mind? Some...