Jen Rieder - Transformative Therapist & Mentor

I’ve had moments where I’ve looked back at past versions of myself and thought… “why did I do that?”

But the truth is
I was doing the best I could with the awareness I had at the time.

And so were you.

Growth isn’t about judging who you were…
it’s about honouring how far you’ve come.

This is your reminder to soften, to forgive, and to keep becoming. 🤍

Hi 👋🏼 Jen here and right now, I’m working with clients who are navigating some of the hardest, most transformative chapters of their lives…

- Moving through the breakdown of a long-term marriage through infidelity… after years of trying to hold it together. A marriage that became controlling, suppressive, and left her questioning herself. Navigating separation, co-parenting, and financial uncertainty, while grieving what she thought her life would be…
Starting over again, going back to school, building a new career, and rebuilding her confidence, identity, and independence.

- Breaking free from addictive-style patterns that have been quietly running his life… the ones he justifies, minimises, or promises he’ll “get under control” but keeps coming back to.
Facing the impact it’s having on his relationship, his self-respect, and the way he shows up, and learning how to regulate, take ownership, and become someone he & wife can actually trust again.

- Earning more than he ever has before…
but still feeling constantly stressed about money.
Overspending, avoiding, or not even wanting to look then wondering where it all went.
Learning how to feel safe with money, take control, and shift the patterns that are keeping him stuck in a week-to-week cycle.

- Untangling the shame of being “the other woman”… and not being chosen. Facing the deeper layers of self-worth, self-abandonment, and what she was truly settling for.

- Navigating fertility challenges…
while trying to hold onto hope, manage the emotional rollercoaster, and not lose herself in the process.
At the same time, stepping into a new business or chapter, and learning how to hold both grief and growth without burning out or shutting down.

This isn’t surface-level work.

This is identity work.
Nervous system work.
Pattern-breaking work.

Because you don’t get a different life by trying harder inside the same unconscious loops.

Having a life quake too? Maybe it’s time to reach out?

Message me “READY” and let’s talk.

Things I learned the hard way about leaving toxic environments…

Your mind will often try to take you back.

Not because it was good for you.
But because it was familiar.

If you’ve spent years seeking validation from others to feel worthy, leaving those spaces can feel like losing the very thing that helped you value yourself.

Approval.
Recognition.
Being needed.

And suddenly you’re left with a question many people have never learned how to answer:

Who am I without their approval?

Most of the time, staying in these environments feeds a deeper belief:

“I’m not good enough.”

So without realising it, you place yourself in spaces where that belief keeps getting reinforced.
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Chasing people who are unavailable.
Seeking validation from the wrong people.
Trying to prove your worth to those who never fully give approval.
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Because if you can finally get their validation,
it feels like proof that you’re finally enough.
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But the truth is…
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No amount of approval from the wrong people will ever heal a belief that was formed inside you.
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I actually wrote about this experience in my recent book — how hard it was to walk away from an environment that was feeding my insecurities, and how every part of me wanted to go back just to prove my value.
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And sometimes another uncomfortable question arises:
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Were those environments actually toxic…
or did they simply reveal the parts of me that need my attention and healing?
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Because often both can be true.

Some environments are unhealthy.

But they can also highlight the insecurities, patterns, and wounds within us that are asking for our attention and growth.

And once you begin to heal those parts of yourself…
you stop being attracted to the same environments that once felt normal.
If you think you are stuck in a toxic environment, reach out I know personally how hard it can be to break that cycle - Jen x