Random thoughts of Introvert

Ghosted, Yet Not Forgotten: Why Lingering Feelings Hurt the Most

Have you ever encountered the feelings for someone who vanished without a word or leaving only silence behind? And then when the connection has ended your feelings remain? The feeling of fallen for someone who slipped away and yet your heart still chooses to remember. That’s what we called an Unrequited Love & Lingering Attachment

These kinds of situations usually begin when you try to get to know someone, whether in person or online. Especially through a dating app, an endless swipe of a dating app. Match here, match there, you cross paths with countless faces. But then, out of the countless people, there’s a one person who captivate your attention and that’s where your feelings begin to grow. Because of the shared moments and constant conversations, the stronger the connection grows between you. But then the day came.... the voice that once filled your days falls silent. Out of nowhere, they vanish and leaving no explanation behind.

It hurts right? You don’t know what happened, what went wrong, or why they suddenly disappeared. You tried to reach out, hoping for an answer, but none came. Instead, you find yourself blocked, cut off and unable to see them anywhere online as if they vanished without a trace. It leaves you in overwhelming sadness. You thought everything was fine between you, but it turns out, it wasn’t.

You know what hurts the most? Realizing it was only you who thought everything was okay, only you who had feelings. In short, it was one-sided.

The reasons why we often end up with unrequited love or lingering attachment it’s because we see the person as our ‘perfect match’ and fill in the missing pieces of the story with our own imagination. Sometimes, even in the shortest moments when you invest your time, your energy and your feelings. Attachment begins to grow. That’s why ghosting hurts so much because you were left hanging on to your own idealizations.

And so, the next time you allow yourself to know someone, remember to be wiser. Set boundaries early, don’t give all your emotions right away, especially when there’s no clear label. Look at actions, not just words, If they’re inconsistent, accept that they’re not as committed as you are. Ground yourself in reality, Remember, not every connection will last, and not every spark is love. Accept closure even without explanation, sometimes, the silence they leave behind is the clearest answer you’ll ever get. And last, shift your focus, instead of drowning in questions of why they left, focus on the wisdom the experience gave you and how it can guide your growth moving forward.

Remember, just because you’ve experienced this once doesn’t mean every story will end the same. Learn to be wise with the next person but keep your heart open to those who are ready to love you fully. Sometimes, being ghosted isn’t rejection at all, but redirection leading you to the one who will truly stay.

POST-MOVIE BLUES

Have you ever fallen in love or attached to one of the characters in a movie you watched? And then after you finished it you realized that it was a Fictional Character only. That’s what we called a “Post-Movie Blues”.

Most of us enjoy watching movies as a way to unwind, escape daily stress or spend quality time with loved ones. However, there’s always that one film that stays with us or leaves a deep impression and becomes our all-time favorite. Maybe the film stood out to you because of its compelling story, amazing cast or you fell in love with one of the characters in that movie. Sometimes you’ve reached the point where you’ve digging into that movies history and discovering other films connected to it. Or you’ve also find yourself searching for the cast, especially the one who caught your attention. Because you’re so attached to the movie of your favorite character, you’ve ended up watching related films or other shows featuring the actor just to revive the experience. But nothing can beat his role in that movie because you were completely captivating by him.

It’s strange, right? It’s just a movie but it captures your full attention.

Now that you’re deeply attached to that character and knowing no other role can compare, a strange realization hits, you’ve fallen for someone who doesn’t even exist. It’s unsettling to know that the movie has ended and yet it feels like a part of you was left behind in that world.

Maybe that’s just the way it works. Hats off to the filmmakers and actors who bring characters to life and leave a lasting impact. With so many movies out there, only a few really leave a mark, my respect goes to them.

What about you? Is there a movie of character that has stayed with you? Was it from horror, comedy, fantasy, action, romance or something else? Drop a comment and don’t forget to follow this page for more Random Thoughts of an Introvert.

ARE YOU AN INTROVERTED PERSON?

Are you an introverted person? If not, you must read this. Especially if you want to know the personality of an introvert you encounter on a daily basis.

Most people define introverts as a shy, loner, quiet, snobbish, not talking or interacting enough and etc. but the truth is most of that are negative connotation of an introvert.

One of the fact of being an introvert is “Introvert aren’t always silent”. They are also conversational especially to someone they are comfortable with, some of them are love ones, best friend and family member. They loved deep conversations, they don’t want small talk especially when they don’t feel comfortable talking to the person in front of them, it gives them awkward feeling.

Second is “Introvert aren’t always alone”. Yes, most of the time you will see them alone but you also see them with a group of people like friends, colleagues and in a crowd as well. However, they still prefer to be alone. And do you know what is interesting about them? They can gain enjoyment form spending time alone.

Next is “Introverts are deep thinkers”. They feel more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas rather than what’s happening externally. Sometimes, they think out of the box as a result, they’ll be better able to learn new things, come up with new strategies and create plan to implement their new found knowledge.

And also “Introverts are confident too”. Introversion is not about lack of confident. Therefore, introverts are confident people, they can express themselves on their unique way. They don’t try to copy what others are doing because they follow their interests so they may genuinely share it with others.

And those are some of the fact about introverted person. So if you think you are one of them, you are an amazing person or if not and know someone who is an introvert, get to know them because these are their interesting characteristics.

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