Lighthouse Coaching International

I spent a few moments today answering some questions for a new project. It felt great to take a minute and reflect once more upon what is really important to me in coaching:

Q1: 𝙏𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙪𝙨 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙖𝙘𝙝.
💡 Radical honesty, trust and vulnerability are the three elements of coaching that I resonate with the most. Every client has given to me as much as I've given them, and maybe more: the gift of sharing a precious insight into who they truly are. Having trained with the best - Olde Vechte Foundation, IACBC, CoachConnect - and coached lots of extraordinary people over the years, I feel truly lucky to be practicing this profession. So if you're thinking of trying out a coaching session, I have three things to say: Welcome, thank you and let's go!

Q2: 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙤𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙩𝙮𝙡𝙚?
💡 My coaching style is an ecclectic combo of appreciative inquiry, systemic/constellational, somatic/embodied, NLP, cognitive-behavioral and the list is still open to incorporate new things I am learning along the way. As I am an ICF-certified coach, I stand by the ICF Code of Ethics and ICF Core Competencies. I listen deeply, show empathy, use a non-directive approach and allow you to take ownership of your transformation process.

- Claudia Toderean-Dascălu

Sometimes when you face your problems by yourself, you get stuck and see no way out. You play the same thoughts in your head over and over again. This is when you need a coach. Not to tell you what to do, or what to think, but to help you ask better questions.

Being friends with your therapist isn't generally a good idea. The efficiency of the therapy lies in the unilateral dynamic of the client-therapist relationship. But is it the same with coaching? Coaching doesn't go as deep as therapy and generally has a more proactive, objective-oriented focus, but it still relies on a unilateral client-coach dynamic. So should you be friends with your coach?

‘It’s Not You, It’s Me.’ Why This Therapist Won’t Be Friends With Former Patients Even if they seem REALLY great.