Whitney Enns

I’ve been hearing this question a lot lately, but I think we’re asking the wrong one.

Yes, choose someone you’re attracted to. Attraction matters. But lasting relationships are built on far more than chemistry.

Whether you’re dating, engaged or have been married for 20 years a better question is ‘What do you actually value and why do you value it?’

When you understand the story behind your values, you make wiser decisions about who you choose, what you’re building together, and how you navigate conflict when life gets hard.

Singles: this helps you choose a partner with greater clarity instead of simply following chemistry.

Married couples: this helps you understand each other more deeply, repair conflict more effectively, and build a relationship rooted in something stronger than feelings alone.

Self-awareness isn’t just about finding the right person.

It’s about becoming the kind of person who can navigate challenges and build a relationship that lasts and PS it’s okay if you’re the person who wants to impress the people walking by, as long as your partner shares in those values, also!

Most men don’t struggle in their relationship because of what they say…They struggle because of how she feels when they say it.

You think you’re leading.She feels judged.
You think you’re helping.She feels criticized.
You think you’re being logical.She feels unsafe.
And then you wonder why she shuts down… or pulls away. I know it’s frustrating, but a few extra words around that logic will go a long way.

If you want your relationship to change, this is one area where it starts.
Stop correcting and Create safety first

One question to tell if your marriage is going to last? Sort of. It’s okay if you believe this for a time, but if you believe it forever you’ll be in trouble. There’s one version of marriage we’re sold…the one of romance, and everlasting love. While being married is the very best thing in the world; having a partner by your side forever is amazing! It’s also one of the hardest things to sustain for MANY reasons. One reason being it’s not popular to admit the reality of its challenges…and the work it take for it to last.

Amazing partners aren’t chosen, they’re made. Im a better woman and spouse today, after 15 years, because I grew into this version of myself NEXT to my husband. We built one another into perfect partners for each other. Irons sharpers Iron. Remember that when you’re looking for your forever or questioning the one you already have.

Perfect partners aren’t found. They’re made. My husband made me better. We built each other into the partners we need and are proud of. Irons sharpen Iron.

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