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A true love relationship is all contribution and no scorecard. If you couldn't love that person in a wheelchair with nothing but love in their eyes to prove who they are to you, you don't have love yet. Keep working.

Got conflict? Who Doesn't?!
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Here are some more steps for making space to discuss how you communicate with each other right now:

• Discuss how are you going to balance power and give value to each person’s role in the relationship. If one partner goes to work and one partner raises children, there is power in both roles that must be acknowledged, encouraged, and respected. Conversely, if both people work outside the home, then discussion may center around dividing family roles fairly. This should be discussed even if there are (as yet) no children. Life comes at you fast.
Never, ever, ever forget to discuss how you will discuss finances. Money is the number one problem people don’t talk about, and there can be a high price to pay for not discussing it. Next to parenting, money is the number one area in which you are unlikely to have any common ground of experience with your partner. Family history, cultural attitudes, and temperaments all converge around our feelings about money. This, in part, is why it’s so important to set the stage for discussing it. There’s emotional stuff connected to it, sometimes going back generations. We don't let go of generational emotions easily.